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LavenderGoddess
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PathStep 46 Compassion hearts23 Forum posts20 Forum upvotes16 Current upvotes16 Age GroupAdult Last activeAugust, 2024 Member sinceJuly 27, 2020
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Mental Health Advocate 💕 Suffer from Anxiety, Depression and PTSD 🙃 Animal Lover 🐾 SDIT (Service Dog in Training) 🐶

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Narcissistic Discard?
Relationship Stress / by LavenderGoddess
Last post
 August 12th, 2024
...See more I’ve been seeing than man on and off for 5+ years. I really did love him. When things are good they are great. When we split its usually his choice and it starts with him either doing silent treatment or saying that I’m controlling, too much, needy, etc. before he does that he will get moody and distant. He will be gone for 3 months, 6 months, a year, etc and then one day show back up with false promises, affection, apologies, etc. He will usually say I forgot something, but won’t give it to someone else to give to me and wants me to come get it as an excuse to see me. The other excuse is that we shared a dog and adopted a dog together, but I can only see the dog on his terms and at his place. I’m not allowed to take the dog with me or spend time with the dog on my own. So another excuse to lure me back in. We just split after about a year a few weeks ago and it started with him playing video games and then ignoring me when I called he was still making conversation with his friend and then getting ignored for 3 weeks. Then he blocked me after I set a boundary that he said he wouldn’t do the silent treatment anymore and that he lied and that if I don’t hear from him then I’m considering the relationship over. In the past he’s turned people against me by calling me crazy for simply reacting to his actions. He always comes back. RN I’m trying to focus on my life, self care, etc. I’m still dealing with all the hurt and pain this has caused me.
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Relationship Issues/Effort
Relationship Stress / by LavenderGoddess
Last post
 May 13th, 2021
...See more So this guy I’m dating is 35 and I’m 25. We have similar interests and some friends in common. We’ve been together a little over a year. When the relationship first started we saw each other a lot and hung out. Then he moved in with me and we spend everyday together (unless he was at work or somewhere else)— we obviously took time apart (his for gaming and mine for my hobbies). He moved out and moved away (15 minutes away) and now I only see him once or twice a week if I’m lucky. I can’t stand it and it really hurts me and makes me feel lonely. He is perfectly fine with video chatting, texting, etc. until we get to see each other, but that’s not enough for me. I need more. I need a physical connection— time spent together. Tonight I told him I was getting off video chat after several hours on it as I have stuff to do and I’m bored of video chatting and not seeing him. He seemed to take offense and said he won’t bother me anymore tonight, but I’m glad I set a boundary and said what I needed in the relationship. This feels like a long distance relationship without it being a long distance and it’s not what I signed up for obviously. I don’t mean to sound ungrateful or come off as rude— I love him, but this isn’t enough effort.
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Struggling to get disability
Disability Support / by LavenderGoddess
Last post
 May 25th, 2021
...See more Hello everyone! I am 24 years old and I live in a small rural town. Due to my age I suppose doctors do not take me seriously. I have health issues and mental health issues, but it’s mostly the mental health issues that prevent me from leaving my house (and therefore working). I have PTSD, severe anxiety and severe depression. I have been turned down for disability once even though I had friends, family and my doctor talk about my conditions. I’m starting to feel like I will never get approved. Any advice or similar experiences?
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