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Leaf513
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My ex doesn’t love herself, but I still want her back...
Relationship Stress / by Leaf513
Last post
 April 23rd, 2021
...See more My ex and I were together for 22 months, and nothing seemed wrong until she broke up me out of nowhere. It hurt and I begged and pleaded for two weeks, but after that I stopped contacting her altogether. I decided to use my time to reflect on our relationship and myself, and I discovered that I was an unhappy person. Towards the end we argued constantly, and most of the time it was my fault. I had become insecure, needy, irritable, and codependent, and no girl wants to be with a guy like that (I wasn’t a bad boyfriend, just emotionally unstable). Fast forward a month and a half, I realized I had a slight mood disorder so I did therapy to regulate those emotions, and I feel better than ever. I’m extremely confident and I love myself. So I decided to write her a letter, taking accountability for the things I had done and all of a sudden I find out through her moms social media posts, that the letter made her sad because “she was missing something from a while ago”. I started thinking about her and how she’s truly feeling, and I realized that she doesn’t love herself. It hurts knowing this because she loves me, and I love her, I know that I’m the best guy for her, but I’m scared that having a man in her life will prevent her from learning to love herself. I want to text her in a week to show her that I do understand how she feels right now and that I know how to support her. But I don’t want to be the reason why she can’t love herself... I’ve put in the work to improve where I was the weakest, so I know I can make her feel loved and cherished again. But should I? Is it possible for me to help her make progress towards self-love if we are in a relationship again?
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