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Lonelyfox2017
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Intuitive Eating
Eating Disorder Support / by Lonelyfox2017
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 June 20th
...See more Hi all, I have struggled with binge eating and emotional eating for years, until I found that intuitive eating framework helped, along with yoga and Acceptance and Commitment therapy workbooks for mental health.... Intuitive eating is helping me accept my body, reconnect with hunger and fullness cues, and to reject diet culture...though I feel like it's something to work towards, and intuitive eating is very hard when we have an active ED, but it did give me an alternative blueprint for relating to food and to my own body image issues. It's really helpful for binge and restrict cycles, at least in my experience, and I'm finding that now I can start enjoying delicious food without fear of losing control and binging. It's not about having a perfect relationship with food and intuitive eating, yoga, and therapy helped me realized it...it's about taking it one day at a time and learning to listen to my body again after years of going back and forth between diets and binges....and shame and guilt and fear. I am still working on my relationship with food, because I'm an imperfect human in an imperfect society, conditioned in imperfect ways, but now I have the self awareness and self-compassion to eat in a moderate way and work towards what I refer to as food freedom. If you want to learn more about this radical way of relating to food and our bodies, check out the book Anti-Diet by Christy Harrison or her podcast Food Psych! Good luck! I'll be here to cheer everyone on and offer support!
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Productivity Advice and ADHD
ADHD Support / by Lonelyfox2017
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 June 12th, 2024
...See more After a lifetime of struggling with my ADHD, I ended up figuring out that a lot of productivity advice for neurotypical people doesn't apply to those of us with ADHD and I was wondering if anyone has anything that has worked for them or what hasn't really worked... For me, that whole "swallow the frog first thing in the morning", where you try to do the hardest task first just doesn't work....because my dopamine is low and being I usually struggle with sleep the night before so I'm not well rested. What works for me is having a checklist and checking off a few simple tasks before I start working on anything major. At work, it might look like checking e-mails and replying to a few first thing in the morning, writing down what has to be done during the day, and any tiny tasks that will set me up for success for the rest of the day. When writing an essay, it helps me to do mind-maps and write whatever I already know about the topic or any questions I have, which gives me a framework for how to approach researching the topic...and when I sit down to write, I create a title page and an outline first, and then it's almost like filling in the blanks....so I'm never starring at a white page and feeling overwhelmed. I also find it useful to highlight key terms and ideas, or cut and paste into a separate document if it's possible.....also creating cue cards for studying helps so much because it turns it into a trivia game...and you can even reward yourself with aa snack once you get a certain number right. In general, turning studying and work into a game can be very helpful. Some ADHD advice that I haven't found useful but other people might find useful: 1. Using fidgets while listening to lectures 2. Body doubling: working alongside someone else who's also quietly working on their project I hope these ideas help someone with work or school....and I might  have more if people want to hear them! What has helped you with productivity and what hasn't?
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Overcompensating for having ADHD + setting boundaries at work?
ADHD Support / by Lonelyfox2017
Last post
 June 19th, 2024
...See more Hi everyone,  I am new in this community. I am in college and doing a placement right now. Everything is going well objectively, but I feel like I'm burning out already after less than a month because I'm not taking enough breaks and when I do take breaks, I feel super guilty and ashamed for needing them because of my ADHD. My supervisor says that I'm doing great and actually need to relax more and pace myself to avoid burnout, but I can't...I feel like I have to work super hard to prove that I am not lazy....especially after being told that i'm lazy my whole life by family and teachers. I am experiencing a lot of stress and doing well at the expense of my physical and mental health....and chugging energy drinks and coffee on top of being on stimulants so that I can maintain focus and do my research and see clients. Everyone things that I'm doing great and that I know what I'm doing, but I feel like I am a childish mess and should not be trusted with so much autonomy and responsibility... Any other ADHD over-achievers here? I already almost messed up a previous placement in my main program (doing post grad now), because I struggled with admitting that I needed help and guidance with some things, and I don't want that to happen again! Any advice on how to set boundaries and ask for help so I don't feel overwhelmed? I feel like I need to prove to them that i'm capable and hard-working, because my ADHD resulted in me quitting jobs in the past and doing poorly. I do better now because what I'm doing is more creative and requires thinking, but inside I'm still struggling with t he usual ADHD stuff: trouble shifting my focus, time blindness, impulsivity, procrastination, distraction, emotional regulation, etc...but I don't want to admit to my supervisor that I'm struggling....
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