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Relationship Stress / by LostMap56
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 February 10th, 2024
...See more Hey, I've been feeling conflicted for a while about my relationship of several years with my gf. Even if there's no advice, I just want to get this off my chest. My gf is a college graduate that has no job or driver license. She's not diagnosed, but she had and showed signs of depressive and anxiety disorders. At first, I wasn't particularly bothered by her not having a job, license or by her mental illness. However as time went on, I began to think about our future together. I started think about the stresses and problems that will arise if we were to share our lives together. I would be the only source of income and a source of transportation. I have brought the topic of her getting a job and or getting her driver license a few times. Each time the topic will cause her to breakdown into tears. I could tell the topic really bothers her, so I try to avoid bring it up to her. She has sent job applications to job opporunities a few, but with no luck. That's understandable because getting job can be difficult at times. However, what bothers me is that it doesn't appear that she is putting more effort into pursuing and searching for job opporunities. Every job application rejection seem to have detered her from attempting at all. It's similar to her situation of getting driver license. She's anxious about driving so she's detered from attempting the driver's exam. I don't know what to say at times. I have been trying my best to be understanding and patient, because I believe pressuring her will only make things worst. I also understand her situation is difficult. However, I have been having thoughts about not continuing our relationship, which makes me feel like an A-hole. I don't want to hurt her and I do want to spend my life with her, but I feel trapped in this situation. Apologies if this is too long.
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