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My girlfriend is cheating on me with her sister
Relationship Stress / by Luka88
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 April 30th, 2018
...See more Hi everyone, I would like to have your opinion about my situation. I have been dating a girl for a month now. She appeared to be one of the most loyal girl I have ever seen and she always says the truth. But she doesn't care about other opinion, what dictionary say and basically she thinks that she is never faulty in what she does. She has a sister who she considers her closest human being and she loves her. This seems perfectly normal. But I recently discovered something. An afternoon she visited her sister and they went by car to walk in a forest near town for a few hours. When she came back to her apartment, I asked her what they have been doing, just by curiosity and make the conversation. You remember about the truth? She told me the truth, she did not hide anything. Her: We played with my sister Me: What game did you play ? She blushed and looked away so it got me more curious and anxious somehow, so I insited. Me: What did you play with your sister ? Her: We were lying against each other and she licked me. Me: Where ? Her: She licks me everywhere, my feet, my legs, my ass, my pussy. She is very kinky, I don't ask, she always does and when she asks me I let her lick me. Me: Did you lick her too ? Her: Yes. The conversation went further and got me mad because it is like she finds it perfectly normal. She thinks that what she does is not wrong and that she is not betraying me or doing me any harm. She has been doing this for 4 years, so 4 years before we met and she does it a monthly basis. Her sister asks for it, she accepts. Her opinion: "It is not sex, it is just play" "I am not cheating on you, this is not betrayal" "She is my sister, she is my exception" "You can fuck my sister if she wants, it will be play for you, but don't make her pregnant or I will kick you both from my life" "Something is wrong in your mind, your are imaginating things like I don't have feeling or respect for you" ""You are a maniac of sex, because you refer about it as "sex" and not "play" ", [i]while she is the one going for more of it with someone else, and I don't do that, she does more sex than me but I'm the maniac.[/i] "You keep blaming me" My opinion: "It is sex, as long as you have a physical interaction with someone in certain part of your body like the tongue in the pussy, it is considered as sex" [i]she answers that she doesn't care about dictionary definition because they're made by stupid people, so my opinion cannot be relevant, so it is not sex to her, but play.[/i] "You are cheating on me, you are betraying me." "If I was cheating on you, like making out with another girl and have that kind of physical interactions, you do be hurt and you would feel cheated on." [i]She answers that if I was going to other girls that would mean she doesn't satisfy me enough in bed.[/i] "So I don't satisfy you enough then if you have this kind of relation with your sister, I'm not good enough for you in bed." [i]She says no, it is only play, you satisfy me enough, we are not having sex, again your conception is wrong.[/i] "You don't know how much you are hurting me with this, in my country nobody does that, this is called incest, people consider it as a wrong thing, they almost forbid it and it is considered as cheating on." [i]to this answers "Why you feel hurtful, you should not, it is normal to me, she is my sister oO, we do this like "we play as play"."[/i] "I am blaming you for a reason and you don't even understand you are doing something wrong for our relationship." After such conversation I feel like I am discovering something new, that people usually do it and that I was not aware of it since I was born. So please help me understand, people do that and I should let her do it? How should I react ? Would you consider her cheating on me ? Do you consider this as "sex" or "play" ? Would you consider it normal between sisters while still having a boyfriend ? Would you feel hurt ? Please tell me anything that is in your mind that could help me understand and accept this situation because she will not change.
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