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Mikmar11
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Number of ratings19 Number of reviews4 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish Listener sinceApr 12, 2015 Last activeover 6 months ago GenderMale PathStep 50 People helped21 Chats52 Group support chats0 Listener group chats1 Forum posts7 Forum upvotes3
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Hi, I'm Michael. Welcome to 7 cups of tea! The listeners on this site have helped me through my social anxiety problems, and now I would like to pass on that knowledge to others. I may not be the best in terms of offering advice, but I assure you that I will do my best to help you through whatever problem you may be having :)

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Wanting to make a new friend. Not sure how to do it.
Relationship Stress / by Mikmar11
Last post
 April 29th, 2015
...See more Hey everybody, I'm Michael, a 19 year old college student. To say the least, I've been living a rather lonely life. I never really learned how to socialize with people. Don't get me wrong, I can speak with classmates, and maintain a conversation about the course material. It's just the small talk that I never really put into practice. I'm in my 3rd college semester, and I still have yet to meet someone who I have continued to keep in touch with after the end of the semester. (A friend). I'm on good terms with a lot of people, but I just never took the initiative to ask more about them. Because of this, they just become another friendly face in the halls. Nothing more. In one of my classes, I've been working alone for most of the semester. Though about a month and a half ago, a girl asked if I could help her with some of the questions. I don't really know why she would ask me, of all people. - including the teacher, other class mates, and even her friends who sit with her. Though it did show me that she is at least interested in becoming friends with me. We've been comparing our answers on and off for quite some time now, though we still don't know each other very well. There's just never any time or opportunities given to me, to be able to chat with this girl 1 on 1. - She is with a friend of her's 100% of the time. - The class is rushed, in the sense that we can leave as soon as we're finished our work. - I never see her out in the hallways, lunch areas, study areas, etc. Recently, we were assigned our second project. I had the courage to ask her if I could join her group of 3, and I was accepted. It was a good day. I finally had an opportunity to chat with her. Today, however was a bit disappointing. It was decided that we split the work (as is custom for group assignments) . We divided into pairs. "the girl", of course working with her friend. and me with another friend of her's. I guess it is good news, in some ways. This other friend of her's is actually very nice and everything. I wouldn't mind befriending her as well. I'm just a little crushed that I've now lost my opportunity with the other girl. There's just something about her that I can't quite explain.  We have a test coming up next Thursday, and we were given practice questions. So I was thinking of maybe sending her a message (with the school messaging system) and asking if she would like to work with me some time this week. Not necessarily any time soon, because it's not due for at least a week. I don't want to seem desperate. :P Does that seem like it would be a good idea? I wouldn't really know these things. >_<
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Agoraphobia
Anxiety Support / by Mikmar11
Last post
 September 14th, 2015
...See more I used to be terrified of any kind of social interaction - from group work in school, to casual chit-chat with one of my classmates. I've been getting over that fear recently. However one thing that I can't seem to triumph is my fear of crowds. If it's an oral presentation, I can usually manage because I know that I have to do it. But if whether or not I stand out is my choice, and my choice alone? I avoid it like the plague. I don't like standing out in any way shape or form. Speaking in public, making loud sudden noises (accidently dropping something) , and especially dancing. I always feel as though I need to keep my head down, as to remain invisible to everyone around me. It's as if I'm in an exam room, and I will fail "the test" by simply looking at anybody around me. I guess deep down, I just have this fear of being judged. and I mean, it really shouldn't matter in classes of 30+ people. It's not really possible to be liked by everybody.
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Anyone around here have "Esophageal Diverticula"?
Disability Support / by Mikmar11
Last post
 April 26th, 2015
...See more Hey everybody, I'm not sure if I'm posting this in the right place, but I couldn't really find anywhere more relevant! Basically I seem to have Esophageal Diverticula - a pocket in the throat in which food can enter. It isn't necessary to treat it, though it can be annoying to deal with it.  The best way I can describe how it feels is as such: Imagine the feeling you get when you are sick with a cold. You can often feel the mucus within your lungs. And so, you clear your throat to temporarily relieve yourself from that uncomfortable feeling. Now imagine that, but you are never able to clear the mucus from your throat. You must instead deal with it on a regular basis. It gets worse whenever I try to eat. I'll find myself clearing my throat constantly. Not because I'm in pain, or I can't breathe - it's just an extremely uncomfortable feeling. Does anyone else think they may have this? It would be great to meet somebody who has dealt with it. :)
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