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MoonRiver29
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Family & Caregivers / by MoonRiver29
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 July 13th, 2022
...See more My relationship with my sister is breaking and I don’t know what do to. I’ve been in a really bad mental place and pretty burnt out the last few months and I think I need some alone time and time to recharge. I thought the summer would let me do that, but I haven’t been able to. Recently, my sister has been moving into a new apartment, and she has been angry by how little ive been helping her. But I’ve been driving an hour back and forth to drop of things and I assembled her desk and helped move a giant couch and set up her WiFi and helped clean and drove her to get things from the store. And she has been upset that I haven’t taken a more active role in making things happen, rather than just following her directions. And she says I do things too slowly and inefficiency, like arriving 15 minutes late or not picking up my phone for her many texts while I am doing things. I’m barely holding it together myself and I am generally absentminded myself in everything I do in life (like forgetting a bag in the car that we could easily go back to get later) and the fact that I’m not able to be as efficient and fast makes her so angry and feel like I don’t care about helping her. On top of that, she gets mad and says really mean things to me, which makes me more upset and makes it harder for me to do things. She says she would be fine if I did less of the brainless work if I was more mentally there and able to think for her and make decisions because she is the one who has to think for everyone. And she says that I space out a lot everytjme there is any yelling and she hates that. But I feel like I space out a lot because I freeze mentally and things become hard to process and I am just in panic. And she says the help I’m giving is just like the manual labor she could hire. I don’t know what to make of this because I’m doing things the way I know how and it’s normally not at her level of efficiency. When I moved, she didn’t help me because she was away at school and I had to do most things myself too. And I didn’t really expect anyone to help me. I want to help her because I know moving is hard and I feel I am doing my best even when all I want to do is sleep or cry. But I also feel that her expectations are too high for what I can reasonably do at the place I am in now when my own life is kind of a mess. I don’t know. If anyone has honest thoughts or advice, I’d love to hear. thank you for reading this very long post
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