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Mre605
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PathStep 36 Compassion hearts164 Forum posts83 Forum upvotes120 Current upvotes120 Age GroupAdult Last activeNovember, 2024 Member sinceJuly 26, 2017
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Good Friend?
Friendship Support / by Mre605
Last post
 February 8th, 2024
...See more This girl I work with have become good friends we have this other girl we work with as well which I will get into in a little bit. Not sure if it matters but this girl is 10-15 years older than me. She usually invites me out, and we get together and have a great time. However there have been some instances she’s invited me out and if I say im not feeling it tonight or something I feel like she doesn’t take a no for an answer and I feel pressured to hangout whenever she asks me to hangout. One time really bothered me because my car I had was falling apart and I didn’t feel safe to drive one night she asked me out. I told her about my car and how I’d like too, but I don’t want to get pulled over or anything. She just said ok just let me know how you feel later. Mind you she lives 45 minutes away from me. I feel like I’m always driving out to see her. She’s never came over my house never even once mentioned she wants to come over which I’m ok with to be fair. I invited her out on new years and she did have to work but she said she couldn’t cause she had to work and I feel like she still could’ve came to the New Year’s Eve event with me. I know it was one instance but I feel like she only wants to hangout if it benefits her or on her terms. Anyway back to the other co worker. All three of us get along and friends. The two of them have known each-other longer. Well my friend ended up throwing her under the bus at work and had her staff write statements against her and my friend was like I’m breaking up with her I’m so sick of her negativity. Did all this and the next time I see them they are talking and friends again mind you this other girl has no clue it was her friend who got her in trouble. It makes me feel uneasy. If she can just do that to her I can only imagine what she might do to me. She also mentioned a week ago how she’s gonna be a certain way to her way. I just feel like she’s starting to rub me the wrong way and make me feel uneasy.
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I want to send this to my friend?
Friendship Support / by Mre605
Last post
 November 21st, 2023
...See more Hey, girl. I know you got a lot going on etc, but I just really need to share my thoughts, and how I’m feeling. First and foremost I just want to say your friendship means a lot to me and I’m so proud of you and the healthy life you have created for yourself. However I’m just not feeling confident in our friendship, and I think we’ve just grown, and changed (which is a good thing) I just feel like we are no longer seeing eye to eye, and it makes me feel unsupported and judged, and I’m really feeling there’s a disconnection happening somewhere between us and also starting to feel one sided. No one to blame. I think life happens, and we change, and grow. I do think it’s best if we take a “break” so to speak. Unless there’s something you can think of as to help this friendship? I’m all open for ideas. Id also like to hear your point of view and ideas you may have. Also if there’s anything or something I can do to be a better friend to you? I really want to try to work this out instead of going separate ways.  Does this come across as rude?
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Feeling Uncertain-long distance
Relationship Stress / by Mre605
Last post
 August 21st, 2023
...See more I’ve been talking to someone I reconnected with from high school the end of last year. We currently live in separate states, and he still lives where I used to live. I eventually want to move closer to be closer to family etc. I went to visit back “home” in February of this year and we got a hotel and connected. After the trip I expressed I like him a lot and want this to work out, and he agreed. He also drove out to visit me for Memorial Day weekend. I recently just saw him last weekend he picked me up from the airport because I went to visit the weekend for my friends baby shower. Here is where things get sticky. I’ve brought up video chatting before, and he seemed hesitant about it like he didn’t want to. We just text, and I’m always the one to text him good morning. If I don’t, I don’t hear from him until the end of the day. When he was willing to pick me up at the airport he started complaining about the traffic ect. He mentioned he wanted me to come by to see his room he is staying in, and so I asked if i could stay the night or we could stay with my best friend and her boyfriend he then proceeds to say he wants to look into a hotel. Okay cool but then he wants to split the cost, and I also asked for a vape pen to use for the weekend and he wanted to charge me a significant amount which I just find a little ridiculous. I don’t necessarily have money to be spending like that and we could’ve stayed somewhere for free. I don’t even really know how he feels. He’s very hard to read. I am going to ask him what he’s thinking cause sometimes he seems interested and other times he doesn’t. I’ll send little cute memes like I teramisu like I miss you and then he doesn’t reply I miss you too or whatever he just started talking about the cake. I’m just not sure what to think.
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Confusing
Friendship Support / by Mre605
Last post
 July 25th, 2023
...See more I have a friend that one minute she’s says something and than changes what she says. Basically contradicting herself. For an example one week I talk to her her and her and her ex bf are are doing absolutely wonderful and then the next they are not getting along and not doing so great. She’s pregnant and having this guys child and from what I understand he not really being supportive. She said he doesn’t want to help financially, and he has to, and she’s just plans on doing everything herself. I mention that unfortunately you might have to take him to court for child support but hopefully his views do change when the baby is born and that’s not the case. She then comes back with well he’s a good a guy he will help. Its confusing cause one minute she says something and then the next it’s different. I just don’t understand, and I feel like she’s not being truthful or honest. I mean maybe she’s just not being honest with herself. Idk.
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Severing ties?
Friendship Support / by Mre605
Last post
 July 6th, 2023
...See more What do I do when friendships no longer serve me? I feel like my friend doesn’t understand me, and our communication style has changed, and we know longer see eye to eye. I feel slightly misunderstood. She’s one of my best friends, but I feel we have outgrown each other, and I know at the end of the day she’s a good person, but I don’t like feeling *** every single time I talk to her, and I have mentioned something to her and nothing has changed. I hate to cut her off, but I feel like distancing myself from her is the best. She’s also having a baby shower which I’m trying to find flights for but I’m broke, and I’d hate to miss it, but maybe it’s just not meant for me to go? I do want to be there for this moment but after I’d like to make changes to the friendship.
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Friends
Friendship Support / by Mre605
Last post
 June 21st, 2023
...See more I feel like when I share things with my friends they think the worst about the situation. It dampers my mood as I’m a hopeful person. Are they even good friends or toxic? I took in a friend to live with me to help her out temporarily, and she has some issues, and it can be somewhat annoying but at the end of the day I’m happy to help my friend and hopeful for the situation. I filled my friend in on the situation, and she’s all like I hope she moves out when she’s suppose to and needs to take responsibility. It kinda hurt because I felt like she was just bashing my friend, and I’m trying to be hopeful about the situation, and I feel like she’s focusing on the negatives. Which I feel is not okay. i started talking with this guy and shared doubts with my other friend, and all she said or says is well maybe it’s not meant to be. It just feels negative to me instead of support. It was still new in the relationship and everything and he’s someone I want to pursue. The way I took her comment was well what’s the point of trying if it’s not meant to be.
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Best Friend Help
Friendship Support / by Mre605
Last post
 April 7th, 2023
...See more My best friend and I currently live miles apart but keep in touch frequently. However I feel like when I share my thoughts her responses come across unsupportive to me, and I know she means well, but I just feel like there’s this weird vibe I get from her and I feel like conversations with her make me feel *** most of the time. Sometimes I feel judged by her, and get unsolicited advice. it just feel like this friendship has run it’s course. We’ve kinda of had conversations about somethings that bother me. I don’t want to cut her out of my life, and I want to accept her for who she is, and try to not to take it personally, but it’s hard. I’m just not sure what to do because I feel so torn.
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I don’t know what to think?
Friendship Support / by Mre605
Last post
 February 17th, 2023
...See more I’m planning a trip back home 11hrs away which I’m driving. I’m planning on seeing 3 different ppl each day I’m there. I’m talking to my best friend, and I’m just trying to figure out schedules etc so my best friend tells me just let me know I’ll be around. Then I update her on Friday I’m hanging out with such and such and waiting to hear back from my other friend, and she goes well we can all hangout together. I also haven’t seen my other friend in forever so it would be nice to just have one on one time with her and I know she feels the same way so I told my friend I’m pretty sure she prefers one on one time etc, and then she comes back with well Saturdays are not best for me because her and her on and off boyfriend hangout that day. I have not seen my best friend in a couple years, and I’m coming all this way and I just think it’s kinda rude she can’t make one exception to spend time with me. Am I taking this the wrong way?
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