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Relationship Stress / by MyUsernameis1992
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 April 10th, 2021
...See more M(29) am stuck in my mind and don't know what to think or do and it's really affecting my day to day mood and sleep as it keeps going through my head. Here's the situation. At Uni I met this girl "Amy", we always hit it off we had great times, we never ended up in a full relationship due to differing circumstances at the time but we both had said that we love each other by the end. Then in our final year, I said she had to pick between me and this other guy as I wanted something a bit more. She went with this other guy. I was devastated but moved on. In my final term at Uni I met an Australian girl "Katie", we then hit it off started going out, she moved to London after uni, got a job, we've happily been in a relationship since and been living together for 4 years. She's great, attractive, intelligent, caring and weve been looking at moving to Aus. Weve now been in a relationship for 7 years and things have just started to get a bit samey and stale, just going through the motions in all walks of life. Covid will have had a part to play in that as its clearly restricted possibilities but its just a bit flat. So, about 9 months ago, "Amy" and I reconnected for the first time in 6 years, with Covid going on i was reaching out to some old uni friends to make sure they were okay and se how they were getting on, so it wasn't just her I messaged. Amy had a bf of 3 years as well so I thought, it'd be nice to just catch up. We chatted and then met up for a social drink and straight away I still felt that connection after all those years (still super attractive and smart) she even apologised for how she'd treated me and that she had been going through a bad phase at the time. We went our separate ways but both commented that there had been a connection. Few months down the line we've been messaging on and off, she's split up with her bf, she wants to be friends because she understands that I'm in a relationship and doesn't want to get in the middle of it but because we get on so well she doesn't want to lose me completely. We met up for a walk and a catch up and I just can't stop thinking about her. The spark is obvious and weve both said if things were different then we'd be all over each other but I'm in this relationship with a great girl who I've said I will move to Aus with next year. I know in my head, I've got a good relationship with nothing wrong and that these feelings for Amy are just part of the new, exciting phase when you vibe with someone. But my heart is just like, yeah but what if it could be better with Amy. After all these years we still hit it off like we have is there not something there. I'm sure i know what I need to do but just want feedback from people who will look at it completely objectively. Thank you in advance
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