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Unsure if cutting ties is the right thing to do, some help would be appreciated please?
Relationship Stress / by MysticSpirit
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 June 25th, 2019
...See more Ok so this is a tad bit complicated, so bare with me please. I met this friend through an online game about two year ago, back when I was a completely different person in a completely different environment. When I first met them, I was dealing with some physical issues that contributed a great deal to my depression and anxiety. Since then I've evolved and grown in many different ways and I'm back to my normal happy self yet again, and am in a wonderfully healthy environment. I have a habit of always trying to make people feel better, and that's really all I ever want to do is to make things better in any way I can. There's one major problem though... I feel like I'm being drained, every single time I speak to this friend I'm just exhausted and have to hide for a few days to regain my energy. I've reached a point where I'm constantly appearing offline on what little social media accounts I have just to avoid having to speak to them, and I feel terrible for doing it. I know they're battling depression almost all of the time and that they have so many awful things going on in their life, that's the reason why I feel so guilty for appearing offline and avoiding them. But I'm reaching a point where I'm wondering if they're not healthy for me anymore and that I maybe should cut ties to protect myself? I'm so selective about who I'm friends with and who I allow to get anywhere near me that I only have one other friend that isn't a family member, so cutting ties with someone is a very big deal to me. My gut says to be straight forward with them and to just end it, nicely and as gently as possible of course. I just feel like I'd be betraying them and be making a mistake. I run into this problem a lot where my gut says one thing, which is usually the right answer, but then my brain says otherwise. Could I maybe get a little help please?
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