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Help with first breakup
Relationship Stress / by N0tt1s
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 November 10th, 2023
...See more *Background* Me (M 19) & ex (G 18) just broke up from a year long relationship. Troughout our relationship, we didn’t really ever fight. You could say it was the perfect relationship. I have been my whole life lonely without parental emotional support and without any friends. I might still have some scars I didnt know I had. I am an athletic person, 6ft, have been going to the gym for 3 years and playing bball for 14 years(in great shape), and play games on my off time. We were eachother first everything. *Why we broke up* A couple weeks after our anniversary. She told me that I had been controlling and oppressive. I asked her ex situationship to do a loyalty test on her. She found out cz the guy told him. Aswell I didn’t want her to hang around with her guy friends. I had stalked her location, asked her always who she was with and where. *My thoughts* After she told me what I had been doing. I realized how creepy I had been and how bad of a partner I was to her. I was ready to change immediately and work on my issues. She said she needed a break and we had a break about half week after she told me she wanted to breakup with me. She told me she lost most of my trust and her feelings towards me because of what I did. Troughout our relationship I feel like I have been the dream boyfriend for her. I have given her numerous flowers. Thoughtfull gifts, given her emotional support when she needed it, opened EVERY door for her and did everything with her in my mind. *What should I do* I love her more than anything and would die for her. She told day before the breakup to our mutual friend that she ”wished she would have talked to me about it sooner”. I’m hoping she can even give me a second chance to show that I can change if we would have communicated. This is day 2 after the breakup. Im planning on going no contact and not staying friends. How long should I wait for her? If she *** another dude and wants be back after, should I go back? How do I deal with this grief other than focusing on myself?
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