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Love or not? And what to do next...
Relationship Stress / by Natatana
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 September 6th, 2022
...See more Here I am with my story, I hope dear 7cuppers will be able to share some insights, I've been pondering upon this confusing topic for over three years now and I'm totally stuck. So, I've met him 3.5 years ago. We're both in our 30s, he's single and apparently he's not been with anyone for several years. I fell for him, instantly, absolutely and like crazy. To start with, he was acting as if he was in love too - lots of hugs, holding hands, texting etc. At some point our friends started to realise something was going on and he withdrew, we were still in touch, texting each other every day, but not meeting that often... And months went by, we started meeting again, rather in private than in public, not regularly yet frequently. We would talk for hours, have some great fun, have sex, text each other every day. I told him about my feelings several times, to which he'd always reply he cares for me a lot, that I'm extremely important to him, but it was only me declaring love. Then one April evening I pushed a bit harder and he said he was not in love and he didn't think he'd ever be, which broke my heart totally. We stopped talking, but he was reaching out to me, and we slowly got back to what we used to be, meeting, having great time, talking. I can see he obviously cares for me, I'm totally in love, but I'm not sure how to understand his words and actions. I see this "I'm not in love" as a sign he doesn't want a relationship, but it seems to me there must be feelings there, I can definitely feel them unless I'm totally blindfolded by my feelings for him. We don't seem to be able to stop being so close, yet it's not progressing or getting any clearer, I'm not insisting but I'm lost. What would you say? I realise it's hard to guess someone's feelings or intentions, but would you wait and see what comes out of it (I've been waiting for years now), resign, anything else?... Please help 💘
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