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Baby daddy breakup
Relationship Stress / by PillowsForDays
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 February 12th, 2018
...See more I'm not sure where exactly to start, but a little back story: I've been with the father of my child (3 year old) for 5 years, would have been 6 in April. Recently I met someone who changed my world. I felt alive again, I felt like I'd met my soul mate, all kinds of things. I never intended to fall for somebody else, because I had been trying to be content and happy with my child's father (whom was not always around or able to support us). But it happened. I tried to talk to BD about it, to see what could be done. We discussed polyamory, and BD seemed to be ok with it, but only with stipulations. I reluctantly agreed, because I want the father of my child in her life, but I felt I wanted to see if anything would stem from this new person. Well, there was a little episode where new guy said something that hurt my feelings some, and BD took it as a chance to "walk away from" the whole thing, and just be with him. Long story short, I've been dealing with BD being manipulative, damaging, toxic, emotionally abusive and using emotional blackmail ("oh you did this, and I STILL stayed with you, you don't know what you're losing, what if NG puts his hands on you or our daughter, I'm a nice guy but other people aren t, I'm not going to be your knight in shining armor If things don't work out for you" to name a few) to try and get me to change. My friends noted to me on several occasions that I didn't seem happy or that he was being a dick. TBC....
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