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...See more This is a VERY long story but I will try to make it as concise as possible. Stick with me! its all important info to understanding the issue. Just some background on me, I am almost 40, divorced, single mom of a teeanager. So anyways there is this guy that I grew up with, we went to school together elementary through highschool. I had a crush on him ever since we were little. I never wanted to say anything becasue I didn't want to ruin the friendship. We weren't super duper close but talked at school and on the phone always. I was the girl he talked to about his girlfriends, the one he called to whine and complain to and vent. He was my dream guy, funny, great personality, just an adorable goofy nerd. I don't know if he was into me too because one or the other of us was always in a relationship so it was never the right time. I even dated a close friend of his that I didn't even like just so I could be closer to him and hang out with his friend group. Anyway the night of highschool graduation he had just broken up with his long time girlfriend and we hung out together at a party all night. I wanted so bad to spill my guts to him then about how I felt but I knew he was leaving for college after that summer and it wouldn't work long distance. So I never said anything. He went away to college and that was it. This was before cell phones so no way to contact each other. I'd see his mom around town and tell her to say Hi to him for me. Time went on, (a lot of time) I got married, had a kid. I had a bad marriage and got divorced after 12 years. Now all this time I was devoted to my husband even though things were bad, but I would have dreams about this guy all the time, it's not like I was thinking of him, I mean years had passed but he would pop up in my dreams all the time like some kind of angel saving me from this awful marriage. I am a strong believer in signs and dreams. So anyway fast forward to this April of 2022. I had been divorced 6 years. I had a dream about this guy like always and decided to look him up online. In all these years he has never had an online presence. No myspace, facebook, twitter, nothing. I could never find him. He is very private and an introvert so I just guess it wasn't his thing. I never get intouch with him until I finally found him on instagram. Nothing in his pics pointed to him being married or having kids. So I got up the courage to message him. We messaged on and off for the better part of two days. I was giddy! I had found my one that got away and better yet he was back living in the town where I was, where we grew up, I am living in the house I grew up in and he is living in the house he grew up in. We are litterally 3 minutes from each other. We were catching up and reminiscing. He had never been married and never had kids. I was estatic. Then game the bomb. I asked him if he had a girlfriend and he said yes, that it was a new relationship but it was going well and that she was jealous that we had been messaging and how stupid that was, My heart broke. I had found my one that got away and he had just started a new relationship. Talk about awful timing. I respectfully stopped messaging him because I mean what do you really say after that, it would seem in poor taste ya know. Well I have been obsessing over him these past three months and I can't let it go. The stars seemed so aligned. So my question is how do I remain on his radar incase this relationship doesn't work out with this girl? How do I ask him if he is still with her without being creepy or or stalkerish? How do I stay in touch with him now? I messaged him on the 4th of July like "Happy Independence day! How is your summer?" Any excuse to message him ya know. We exchanged a few messages but thats it. I don't want to be that girl and break up a relationship. I mean we are almost 40! and he is a good guy anyways, too good for that. Do I tell him how I feel so he will know in case they break-up? Do I somehow let it go? Its just driving me crazy obsessing over it. I need advice please!

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