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...See more Bit of a long story with a complicated situation. But, in a relationship for 14yrs and married for 6. Very unhappy for the past 5yrs, many attempts at fixing things but there were many fundamental differences between us that we/I couldn't get past. Separated at the end of Nov 2019. I also started dealing with some childhood trauma around this time, with significant emotional and mental effect on me. Meanwhile, last year I met someone unlike anyone I've ever encountered. We immediately became friends, and that's where it stayed whilst I was still married. Once I seperated, we began to hang out. We live in different cities (about 4.5hrs drive apart), so we would see each other around once very two weeks. She has been divorced, her ex was violent and tried to strangle her. Things moved very fast, and a physical relationship began (despite us both saying we needed to take it slow). I realised I had fallen in love with her last year, told her and she said she also loved me. Fast forward 3 months, she dumps me due to a moment of emotional meltdown I had whilst out together at a social event (lost the plot, felt alone and ignored and behaved poorly). She says she felt controlled and like her ex made her feel. She says she can't move past it. I stop contact, 3 days later she messages saying she misses me terribly and can't bear not talking every day. Wants to try a friendship. I feel devastated, and I'm confused as to what she wants. Help!

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