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Ruben470
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Number of ratings8 Number of reviews6 Listens toOver 18 LanguagesEnglish, Dutch Listener sinceSep 3, 2025 Last activein last week GenderMale PathStep 42 People helped27 Chats625 Group support chats51 Listener group chats548 Forum posts38 Forum upvotes123
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I am currently on a break from 7 Cups and will not be around much. I am not accepting new member chats for the time being.


Hey there!

I believe that everyone has a story that deserves to be heard. Whatever your story may be, I am here to listen with curiosity and without judgment. My goal as a listener is not to fix things but to understand them so you do not have to carry their weight alone.


I aim to create a welcoming space where you can share your story freely with someone who will sit beside you and truly listen. No matter how big or small your story feels, I care about it. I believe deeply in listening with an open mind and genuine curiosity because everyone’s story matters.


When life feels heavy, one of my favorite things to do is take a long walk through nature, sometimes alone, sometimes with a friend. I hope that talking with me can feel a little like that, like taking a quiet walk with someone who listens, who cares, and who helps you breathe a little easier along the way.


Session info:
🕐 Session of 60 minutes at a time!

Status:


🟢 Green: I am currently online and accepting personal requests. My response time will be within a few minutes.


🟠 Orange: I am online, though I might be occupied with other 7 Cups related things, such as already being in a chat, or in a public chatroom. My response time may vary (20-60 minutes).


🔴 Red: I am currently offline. Please leave me a message and I will try to get back to you as soon as I can. This might take up to 48 hours.


Special Cups Corner:

✨Twin Brain Listener:✨

🎀@Bow64🧠

Tybow, through typos and through laughs, I am grateful and proud to call you my friend!

"Where one mind can light the sun, two can ignite the stars, but together they can make them shine✨"


✨Listener Nana:✨

🚀@TovaCares76🍬

Nana, the great friend that proves how fun a little chaos can be!

"You can't stop change any more than you can stop the suns from setting, or Nana from being chaotic fun 😉"


✨Listener Sister:✨

🕊️@daydreammemories💚

Dayo, a fellow human being who I recognize many parts of myself in!

"Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, 'What! You too? I thought I was the only one.'🫂" - C.S. Lewis




















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"Do the Thing" Challenge
Community Challenges / by Ruben470
Last post
 April 30th
...See more Hey everyone, Ruben and Tova here! We are inviting you to join us in our “Do the Thing” challenge. This will be a 7-day challenge where we encourage everyone to do a “thing” every day. The idea is to motivate each other by sharing our “things” with each other. What counts as a “thing”? A “thing” could be anything you have been putting off or that you would just like to do, but haven’t gotten around to do yet.  * Have you been staring at this book, but you haven’t picked it up to start reading it yet? This could be a good time! Do the thing! 📖 * Do you have some cleaning chore that you’ve been meaning to do? Do the thing! 🧹 * Do you want to write a nice journal entry today? Do the thing! 📕 * It could also be something you decide in the moment. Do you feel like cooking something nice? Also a great time to do the thing! 🍲 A thing can also be something you’ve been nervous about trying, or doing, and have not done yet.  * Are you thinking about asking someone to have coffee with you? Do it! ☕  * Maybe looking into taking a few classes? Get on it! 🎓  Now is the perfect time to begin, and all you have to do is tell yourself you’re able to get out there and do the thing!  What do I need to do to participate? Simple! For the next 7 days, you post a little something about what “thing” you did today. You can also write a little about how you feel about it. If you would like some extra accountability, you are also welcome to post a thing you plan to do tomorrow as a challenge you set for yourself. You are free to challenge yourself as much as you like. What matters is that we get together and 👏Do. 👏The. 👏Thing! We will also be participating in the challenge ourselves, so for inspiration, feel free to see our posts if you’d like an idea for a post format for your own things! If you would like to invite anyone else to join the challenge, feel free to tag them! 😉 Good luck on doing those things! Ruben and Tova ❤️
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Happy Cupsversary!! @Compassionaterainbow64 🎀
Positivity & Gratitude / by Ruben470
Last post
 October 30th, 2025
...See more Happy Cupsversary!! @Compassionaterainbow64 🎀 Today, October 30th, is a special day. It is the Cupsversary of a very important person, an amazing listener and my friend and twin brain listener 🧠. For Bow, I would like to raise a special toast! 🥳 Many of you probably know Bow. Whether you know her as the amazing listener she is, as a fantastic Sharing Circle host, or as one of her other many roles, I think it is safe to say that 7 Cups would not be the same without her. Bow is an inspiring person. Endlessly kind, incredibly supportive and just someone who is always there to help! ✨ I joined 7 Cups as a listener about 2 months ago, so my journey here has not been that long yet. For personal reasons, I nearly left not long after I joined. It would have been a journey cut very short, if it weren’t for Bow. Thanks to Bow, I decided to stay here on Cups and I will continue to stay for what I think (and hope) will be a long time. For this, I want to thank you, Bow, from the bottom of my heart, for all you have done and everything you still do today! ❤️ I would like to end this post by raising my cup! Here is to my friend Bow, someone I am so grateful to know, someone who makes this community a brighter place and someone who reminds us all of what true kindness can look like. I am proud to call you my friend. Here’s to you, Tybow! ☕🥂🤍 ------------------------- People who might be interested: @Jenna, @Heather225, @Bubbles2025, @daydreammemories, @BlueRivercares, @EnigmaticCat, @Amanda84, @SoulfullyAButterfly, @InternalAcceptance, @Rebekah, @Kyoshi, @SelfCareMatters, @kenzolena, @Suryansh, @AnnaSilverberg, @Lou73
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Feedback & Reviews
He's a nice person. Listens with care
Very patient, very attentive, a kind soul, so good of a listener.
One of the best listeners... He is responsive and sensible. Made me feel safe and heard💟💟
A very good listener ❤️
Thank you Ruben for listening calmly, you have been the best listener ever :) - R
Incredible chat with such an exceptional listener! Totally recommend them! Thanks for listening to me.
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