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Rulerofalbion101
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Love her or leave her?
Relationship Stress / by Rulerofalbion101
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 February 13th, 2019
...See more I'm a truck driver. I was OTR over the road for 2 weeks home 2 days. Most jobs require this. For those who don't know we make decent money. 5k a month for me. My wife of 6 years. My highschool sweetheart. Cheated on me. ran up credit card debt for liquor. She drank everynight. She didn't tell me. She controls the money. I've always given her all of my check. All of it. She moved my brother in. He needed a place to stay. The problem he's a drug addict. So was my wife which I didn't know. I finally after getting enough experience get a local job I am home everyday now. I noticed there was tension between my wife and I. I had kicked my brother out a week before. Some context I was already angry with my brother he and I team drove together for a year with him stealing from me. My wife defended him even then. But one night He had slammed my wife's head into the wall in a drunken rage. While I was 4 states over. I got a local job and kicked him out. So my wife and I are sitting at Chili's. I'm very good at reading people. I look at my wife and ask her to tell me the truth I want the truth. What happened? She had sex with my brother. More than once. At least 3 times. Once is a mistake. More is purposeful. When she refused this last time he hit her and threw her into the wall in my house. I forgave her on the spot. Because that's who I am. But I keep thinking about it every second of every day. I've worked many years to control my emotions to make myself a good person. But my thoughts wander to them entangled with each other. Him living my life. while he was abusive. I am not. I asked if he forced her. He did not. But he was still living in my house. Being me. My wife putting his needs before mine. Treating me like I was the brother in law not the husband. I get so angry. My breath quickens my eyes blood shot and it takes everything in me to calm down and not break my hand on the closest thing near to me. I don't know what to do. He's in rehab now. She unemployed as she has been for the last 2 years and acts like nothing ever happened. And when I'm home and not at work I do the same. It's like instinct. I don't know what to do. Should I get a divorce? And try to meet someone who cares for me?
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