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Scoundrel8
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When Do You Leave?
Relationship Stress / by Scoundrel8
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 May 17th, 2021
...See more Hi, I've been married for 25 years. Three great kids, 2 in college and one in high school. I've been unhappy for years. It's not a marriage, it's basically a room mate/ co-parenting situation. No sex for 6-7 years. Discovered he's been hiding money. I am pretty sure he has a separate bank account and I've found up to $2,200.00 cash in his car. Also, I am required to check in everywhere I go and text/call on my way home. He gets mad if my plans change and I don't notify him. But he does not play by the same rules: Home late from work, sports, and no one knows where he is. But I'm "looking for a fight" if I ask where he was. Since the kids had plans Friday night and he was coaching a game, I made plans with friends. I was home early, even before any of the kids were home. Because he was "left alone" I got the silent treatment that night. The next morning it turned into sulking, slamming things, and being very passive agressive. And he is the king of gaslighting: He claims to NEVER have said half of the stuff he does and it makes me want to record every conversation we have. I know I want to leave him but am terrified. Knowing him, he will take every opportunity to let the kids, family, friends, neighbors, etc, know what a horrible person I am. How I lie, make up things about him, etc. and this makes me scared. I can NOT lose the trust of my kids! Plus, on the outside, everyone thinks he's the "Golden Boy". We've done very well financially and he puts forth a kind, compassionate, giving facade to family and friends. He's a prominent figure in our town. My parents love him. His parents think he does no wrong. I'll be thrown to the wolves and no one will believe my side of the story about how stressful living with a narcissist has been all this time. Sorry this is so long. I have no one to talk to. I have only divulged these details to one friend and my family is in the dark.
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