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Relationship Stress / by Scvcn
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 August 11th, 2023
...See more Apologies if this comes off uncoordinated or messy. I’ve been in a relationship for nearly a year, so it is fairly new, but in that year my mental health has suffered more than ever. I fear I have become little more than an ideal to my partner, a free, infinite source of everything they’ve ever wanted. I’m always caring for them, always listening to their rants, both positive and negative, and always showing them affection, however I receive none of this in return. Admittedly, I do give my partner far more energy than I’d ever ask from another person. And I do this willingly, however getting a net zero in return is becoming quite disheartening, to the point where I do not believe I am worthy enough to have earned their love. In the time I’ve been with them, I’ve never felt I’ve mattered less. But I do not know if I am allowed to fault them for this. They struggle with so much within their life, both mentally and from external factors, that I am unsure if I should ask them for any energy at all. I keep telling myself there will be a day where they will be stable, in which they will then be able to mind me in return, but I’m quite literally dying waiting for that day. I would communicate this to them, but because of their mentality, I am afraid to bring anything personal of mine, or just anything at all into conversation. I fear anything I say will be misconstrued and used as a vendetta against themself, so, for the time being I am forced to remain exclusively their caregiver until further notice. But is any of this okay? Should I have to wait for them just to feel seen? Truly I’m just uncertain, and I appreciate any input I can get.
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