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Shinrin1Yoku
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I just cut off my best friends from my life - my parents
Relationship Stress / by Shinrin1Yoku
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 May 2nd, 2018
...See more So. My mother is addicted to nicotine. I understand, it is an addiction. I have a tendency to be addicted to food, so I understand completely. But at least I am trying and searching for new ways how to get rid of it! But she does not do a shit. She has been smoking approximately 12 cigarettes a day for over 35 years. The only time she ever stopped was when she was pregnant with me. My father was a smoker too, but he got a wake-up call few years ago, when he was hospitalized couple of times due to heart problems. He quit cold turkey. It is true, that he substituted it with sweets, but he even gave up this habit for good. I consider him a zen monk at this point. :) I told her, that if she does not quit smoking, I won't talk to her at all. To make my point, I deleted her from facebook, so we are not connected in any way (and I was hysterically crying while doing so, because we are really close) I have also disabled my dad's account from seeing my future posts. I am afraid, that in order to make it efficient, I have to stop talking to my dad too. :'( It hurts me terribly, literally in my chest. But it hurts me even more, that we probably won't talk for a long long time. I am afraid she will choose those goddamn cigarettes over her own daughter. T_T I am 26 and I live independently in a city 330km far from my parents. I understand, that it is an emotional blackmailing/hostage situation, but I have no other option, my own and dad's attempts to make her quit have always failed miserably. Also, they have this riddiculous habit to check if i am okay, when i go out at night. I told her, I won't answer the phone anymore. I think they won't last very long. I really do hope I am strong and can be completely silent, because... she is 55! She.Has.To.Stop.Now. What are your thoughts? Did I do a wrong thing? Could it work?
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