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Is it too late?
Relationship Stress / by Shykitty
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 October 1st, 2019
...See more I feel like such a mess over what's been happening the past week. My boyfriend has decided he is unsure of our relationship and it's been messing with my head. Until now, I've just realized that this may be all my fault. He said he doesnt blame me but he needs to think things through and that I should be patient, which is killing me. My behavior has been so toxic for him. I've been a clingy person and I always got mad whenever he took a long time to respond to a text. My sex drive is high and I would get upset when we went a week or more without it and always went straight to blaming him for not liking my body or seeing someone else. I have a bad temper and I always got upset easily and shut myself out by ignoring him until the next day. His patience and affection was always there through all of this. I always appreciated it but I never thought of myself as a toxic person until I realized how bad my behavior has been. Last week he sprung this decision on me and it's been so painful watching us drift apart and barely talking anymore. I do love him and I've always seen a future with him. Now I'm just hoping he will talk to me about what made him have this uncertainty and give me a chance to fix it. I'm so scared he will decide to break up and not tell me why. I told him I would like a chance to work this out once we've talked and he responded with "we'll see". Am I already too late to get a second chance? How can I convince him to stay before it's too late?
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Boyfriend unsure about relationship??
Relationship Stress / by Shykitty
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 September 23rd, 2019
...See more My boyfriend of a year and 5 months has suddenly decided he is unsure about our relationship. This started just last week when his behavior started to change. He was less talkative, barely texted more than two words, and stopped saying "I love you". This hit me hard as I thought we would've ended up together forever. We planned a future, got promise rings, and made things official to our parents. But now it all seems like it meant nothing to him. I finally got him to open up just a bit to know why the sudden change in behavior but he has asked for more time to think things through before talking any more about the situation. I agreed and now we are talking a bit more (though it feels forced). Our routine hasn't changed much, we still call during his break at work, take a nap in the afternoon, and end our day by sleeping in a call, all things we did when we first dated. My concern here is, how do I deal with this change? I'm so afraid he will decide to end things and I love him so much, I know I cant change his mind if he decides to leave but is there anything I can do now? Maybe something to get him back to me before he decides to split ways? I'm not sure, he may or may not break up with me but waiting and being patient when we're like this is so difficult for me.
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