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SilverLinings1994
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Longdistance bf broke up with me
Relationship Stress / by SilverLinings1994
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 December 30th, 2017
...See more Hello, a background story; we are from the same country but he's currently doing his masters abroad for a year. We met May 2017 and spent 2 months at the same place before he had to leave in September 2017. We have been in a long distance relationship ever since In the beginning - the 2 months when we started seeing each other, he was the one who was so sure about me & about us. Trying to reassure me that we can make long distance work. The resistance came from me, I was the one who question everything, emotionally unavailable. I wasn't sure if I want to be with him.. Now the tables have turned.. He is the one who doesn't think long distance can work, saying he still can't enjoy the process, like skyping and all.. now he's the one who is emotionally unavailable. Saying his feelings for me has been plain. We had a talk a month ago about this & we have agreed to try but he's not letting me in at all :( Another thing is that because there was a lot of resistance from me in the beginning, our relation didn't flourish like how it could be.. it didn't happen naturally, our feelings didn't really developed & all that. Now that we're not in the same place, it's even harder to maintain since it wasn't strong enough in the first place So a month has passed and we had another talk this morning, he wanted to break up. He said: "Because I cannot give you what you can give me. I cant be there for you when you need me, I am not capable of that right now and I am not hurting you anymore. It gives my expectation, weight, responsibility and I am not enjoying it. I feel under pressure" He told me that he's not really enjoying his life abroad, that it's nothing like how he expected it would be. With trying to keep up with school & not really having good friends yet. So I do feel really sad & hurt that he seems to 'blame' everything on me, as if I'm the one who makes him feel under pressure when all I'm trying to do is be there for him.. He is just disregarding other things that happens in his life (school stress, not having close friends yet) that does play a big role on him feeling that way too I don't want to break up :( I still want to be with him, try & be there for him.. is there anything I can do at this point if I don't want to lose him? :( I seriously need someone to talk to about my feelings.. is there anyone here who's going through something similar or can relate..? If we can talk and if you're willing to sacrifice your time to lend some ears, I'd appreciate it a lot.. thank you so much.. hope you're having a wonderful day / evening
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