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Questions for a broken heart
Relationship Stress / by StillWaters3120
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 October 14th, 2019
...See more Hi, I'm seeking out advice for this broken heart I have. Just a little context: Earlier this year I met an incredible. We have several things in common, enjoyed spending time together, and never really encountered any toxic behaviors or red flags to make us think that this relationship wouldn't work out. However, he made it clear that he was unhappy in his career and kept making plans to leave the state to work somewhere else or pursue higher education. And every time he mentioned not being in our current state he made comments like "Well you could go too", or "Let's run away." So I thought our future was looking good. We would make plans to do things and places to to in the future. We were exclusive and had been dating for about eight months. We never said "I love you" to each other, I knew he cared for me and could have gotten to that place. I felt like at least I was definitely there. I thought I had found someone special, and thought that he was "The one." We went out for dinner and had a great time with great banter and conversation. Nothing seemed out of the ordinary, and we made plans to meet up two days later to see each other again. However, when that time came he started with "We need to talk." Our conversation revolved around his stress at work and how he needed to get out of this profession. This would mean he would leave in about eight months due to his contract. He felt it would be easier to talk about it now rather than later, because if we split up now it wouldn't be as difficult as it would later on. I told him that I'm at a place where if he asked I would go. He didn't want to put me in that position. Yet when I asked where he saw this going he said "I don't know," and didn't seem to clearly communicate what he wanted. I asked if he ever saw us getting married and he nodded. He felt like he had to figure this all out and that I was sort of distracting him from his future. There were no red flags and it didn't seem like he was distancing himself. He was just as emotional as I was about our conversation. He held me, we cried, and he kissed me goodbye. When I asked if there were any open possibilities he said maybe. What did I do? What DO I do? This was all two weeks ago and I stuck to my guns about the "No Contact" rule, but I'm dying to reach out to him. I still care for him, and am genuinely worried about how he's handling the stress of work. Was he just done with our relationship? Did he ever care for me? With time and space, do we have a chance??
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