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SugarPlum92
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PathStep 17 Compassion hearts36 Forum posts1 Forum upvotes2 Current upvotes2 Age GroupAdult Last activeSeptember, 2026 Member sinceAugust 16, 2015
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I am coming from a mindset of believing for years “Nothing has happened to me that I didn’t allow.”

To

“I am not what happened to me, I am who I choose to be.”

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How to make historical memories distant?
Trauma Support / by SugarPlum92
Last post
 September 10th
...See more I’ve recently come to understanding what happened in my past was SA. I was being SA for the entire year of being 22 then later again SA at 24. I had such a narrow understanding of assault I think most of us have. Like if you weren’t unconscious, screaming no, fight ect then it’s not SA. I didn’t know fawning, freezing automatic responses that are not conscious decisions. I’m having a hard time forgiving myself, not getting trapped in a moment where I’m staring into space and I have to learn to accept I will never have justice (I did try to have 1 held accountable but the case was dropped). My past is shameful and embarrassing. I wanted to pretend that part of my life didn’t happened but it did and now I have to deal with it and I’m grieving what I thought I had and who I thought some people were.
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