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TerryTHEwonderer
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PathStep 1 Compassion hearts44 Forum posts12 Forum upvotes18 Current upvotes18 Age GroupAdult Last activeDecember, 2025 Member sinceNovember 3, 2023
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I Feel Ostracized, Alienated, and Alone
Men's Issues / by TerryTHEwonderer
Last post
 March 13th, 2025
...See more Ok First, I just want to say that I haven’t been on 7 Cups for a while, and I was surprised to see that there is a men’s issues section. I feel compelled to come here and talk about my feelings since I am a man, and I believe that many of the issues I’m experiencing stem from that fact. I have a lot on my chest that I don’t feel comfortable expressing on any other platform. It really bothers me that I’ve come back to this mental health platform, 7 Cups, which I consider to be garbage, but I don’t have anywhere else to turn to so it is what it is, I guess. I feel ostracized, alienated, and alone. I don’t have any friends and struggle to make them in the first place. I don’t have a good history with friendships either, and on top of that, I’m going through family issues as well. I really don’t feel like I have anyone I can turn to-anyone I feel comfortable or safe confiding in. There’s no one I truly trust. I have no sense of companionship, which is one of the reasons I turned to online platforms and social media (mostly ***) in search of connection or friendship. Unfortunately, I haven’t had any luck or good experiences there either. I’ve run into a lot of toxicity, negative people, and harmful atmospheres, and I think it’s only worsened my mental state. It’s reached a point where I even feel threatened when I do get a response or feedback from someone. Whenever I try to establish a friendship online, it doesn’t lead anywhere. I’m tired of always being the initiator putting in effort and getting nothing in return. It feels like no one is putting in the same work I am, and nobody cares enough to check in on me or see if I’m okay, and I know I can’t be exaggerating either cause if I were a woman I would get people calling and texting me without me even asking wanting to talk like how both my Mom and Aunt receive. Something that I’ve noticed. The truth is, I’m not okay. I’ve been dealing with nothing but problems and nonsense for a very long time now, and even therapy doesn’t seem to be working or helping. I hate this. As a man, I feel like I have no place in society no sense of belonging or connection anywhere. As for women, I haven’t had good experiences with them either. I do not trust women at all and am very wary of them. At this point, I don’t want to be lumped in with the actions of other men simply because of my gender. Both online and offline, I constantly hear that men are the problem that everything wrong with society is men’s fault. That men are the root cause of all evil. Somehow, it’s all MY FAULT!. I didn’t choose or ask to be male. Women didn’t ask to be born female either, right? So why should that be held against me? I have done nothing wrong to women. I have never acted with bad intent toward them. In fact, I go out of my way to avoid them. And honestly, I’d recommend that any man do the same. If you’re a man, just being near a woman is enough to make them uncomfortable. Just standing next to them is enough to make you a threat in their eyes. That’s how it feels. Society demonizes and vilifies me simply for existing as a man. Because of this, I avoid women whenever possible. But it’s getting to the point where I’m completely fed up and sick of women entirely. I feel like I’m drowning in an empty void, and I don’t know if I can crawl back from it. I’m just sick and tired of everything at this point.
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I Hate being in cameras or seeing my reflection
7 Cups Online Therapy / by TerryTHEwonderer
Last post
 March 4th, 2025
...See more I hate being recorded on cameras and taking pictures or just looking at my reflection in general and It’s been like this for me for quite a while now and it’s also sometimes forced on me like having to get on zoom calls or doing ID’s being recorded or having a picture is just something I despise because I hate looking at myself and everytime I’m in a position where I have to it makes me uncomfortable I think I might have a condition would someone be able to tell what it is or what I’m going through or experiencing.
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