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Losing myself and my joy in life in a relationship
Relationship Stress / by TheBigBangTheory
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August 27th, 2018
...See more Hello, its my first couple of days here on 7cups. I came here because I am experiencing a lot of stress and I am trying to find a place to get support. I am 25 years old and in a relationship for over 2 years (my first one). Weve also been living together for about half a year now. I care a lot about my girlfriend but I am just not as happy as I feel like I should be. I know she is very happy, I really give it my all to try and keep her happy. However I feel like its been getting to me, I think I am just not up to the task. She deserves better than me, I am trying to fill shoes that are too big for me. Maybe we are just too different, in the way we like to live life and the way we look at it. She is very neat, controlling and strict and needs to have everything planned out ahead. If something messes up said planning she has a kind of breakdown. She has an overall negative view of everything, and Ive had this too in the passed. But Ive tried to change and people see me as a positive person now. However it does cost a lot of energy and work to do so, but its just too much to do it for two people. I made a big mistake a few months ago where I started to use an electric cigarette to try and calm myself down with the stress Ive been having. She found out a little while back and she got really upset. She didnt breakup with me but I did hurt her feelings a lot. (Part 1)
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