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Thepaintedone
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 June 16th, 2023
...See more I want to break up with my boyfriend. I’m (33f)an autistic person dating a neurotypical person (24m). I own 4 houses and I do all the house keeping for 3. My father is elderly and can’t clean. My mother takes care of her home and I live in one with a roommate that is also neurodivergent. I also recently purchased a house to stay with my boyfriend part of the week. I do repair at two of the houses frequently and work on them all day. Plus I take care of many animals. My boyfriend sleeps all day and stays up all night either playing video games or going to hang out with his family. I am financially supporting us and I work remotely. He has cleaned the house once since moving in and expects me to do all the cooking and cleaning when doesn’t work. We have been arguing a lot about me not cleaning the house as much. I do all the errands and grocery shopping as well as the laundry. I also usually do all the dishes even though I rarely get to use them. He complains that we don’t have sex enough and generally not keeping up with the house work at the house he lives in. I used to keep things that were specifically mine food wise that I ask him not to eat or drink and he does anyway. Then complains if I eat or drink anything that he just happened to pay for. I by the majority of the groceries and don’t get to eat very many of them. I don’t know how to go about this break up because I just don’t see our relationship It’s going anywhere. I feel like I put in all the effort. We’ve been together for two years and while I love him I just don’t see us having a future. I feel like the little effort he puts in is just when I’m on the verge of breaking up with him. His family is kind to me and has accepted me and I love his nieces and nephews. And I don’t want to lose them. He conveniently forgets to invite me to family events even though his family usually expects me to be there and I don’t find out about them till afterwards. How do I go about this? I feel upset, depressed and stressed out all the time from basically supporting three households by myself. How do I either fix my relationship or break up with him?
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