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Todavia
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I don't want to be around my good friend's husband
Relationship Stress / by Todavia
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 July 10th, 2017
...See more I have a good friend whom I care for dearly. She's smart, accomplished, and an all around good person. Her Achilles heel is her husband who, for years, has been unfaithful, selfish, and unsupportive. She's cried to me after each transgressions and failing to acknowledge her feelings (pretty often) but always forgives him, in an effort to make the marriage work. This last betrayal was it for me and feel as though if she wants to stay with him, that's her choice. However, I don't want to waste my time around him and I try to avoid invites where he will be present. This last betrayal has changed my friend, as well. She's desperately trying to keep him closer and feels the need to please him always and run everything by him. He's pretty unreliable and unpredictable so plans my friend and I make are dependent on what he's doing. So I'm shying away from inviting her places and then I get accused of not wanting to hang out with her. Is it possible to have my friendship without having her husband around, too? How can I tell her that I'm not interested in hanging out with him?
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