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...See more My SO (25) and I (31) met and moved in together two years ago after 3 months of dating because he was losing his current place of residence, I had never lived on my own yet other than at college with roommates. Our lease is up for renewal, we've had issues since the last renewal but let it renew because we didn't do anything to change our living situation. We've been fighting heavily for the past year, especially the past 6months which ended up having police called on us about two weeks ago for noise complaints. We have no solution how to continue living together if renewed but my bf is saying that if I choose to not renew and live separately we're going to be ending our relationship because he doesn't see it working if we live apart. I'm frustrated that he isn't even giving it a shot to work with us finally having our own space but he thinks we'd be okay staying in a clearly unhealthy space and said that what he wants is to renew together. It feels slightly manipulative that the only options I'm being given is to continue in this unhealthy circle we're in or break up if I want to have my own space. I've been severely distraught for over a week, we have to give an answer by Friday to the landlord and he just keeps asking what I want and that I don't have to worry about him if I chose to move out because he's figured out his housing situation before. I'm not even sure I know what I'm asking here but I just can't understand his logic. It feels like he doesn't actually care if we're together other than if we stay together he's guaranteed a place to live.

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