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Love heartbreak triangle
Relationship Stress / by Usso
Last post
 May 5th, 2024
...See more to start thanks for reading, this has been stressing me out. ill try not to make it too long. in december me M/26 and my ex F/23 broke up (dated for 6 years and lived in same apartment for 2) after i found out she kissed my best friend of maybe 11 years. my ex had a really bad alcohol issue so I introduced my best friend who has the same thing and i guess maybe they bonded a little too well. anyways i cut him out of my life and after my ex and i broke up she has lived with her parents ever since. i dont think shes drank since maybe febuary. i still care about her and see her clothes and stuff here at my apartment everyday plus we have 2 cats together. since then ive been playing an online game to ease the lonliness of living alone and ended up meeting a girl online (F/21) and weve gotten close. she knows about my full situation, and she ended buying a plane ticket to where i live. i want to see her but apart of me feels like things wont ever work because she lives on opposite coasts of me. but i still like her. shes been nothing but kind to me and is very sweet to me. over the weekend when dropping off mail at my ex's place to her father, she texts me after saying shes tried to kill herself because of how much guilt shes feeling. it made me realize that i still really miss her and that maybe she really needs me. im not looking for just a girlfriend fling either i wanna be with someone for a long time. even tho she hurt me really bad i wanna save her from what shes feeling. i feel like a complete *** to the girl i met online. (id repay her for 100% or more of the money she spent on plane ticket). i just dont really know what to do. my ex was my first ever girlfriend and if i meet with this new girl i feel like things would be over forever with my ex and i. but at the same time ive been trying my best to see if i could forget how bad she hurt me but its hard. any advice is appreciated (i know maybe i sound like an *** and should just "pick one" but its not so easy, im also really bad at hurting anybodies feelings. TLDR: me (M/26) cant decide between my ex(F/23) who broke my heart and kissed my best friend or (F/21) who lives on other side of country.
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Ex girlfriend issues
Relationship Stress / by Usso
Last post
 March 20th, 2024
...See more Hey so a bit of a story here... In December my ex girlfriend (24) and me (26) broke up. She had a bad alcohol issue so I decided to introduce my best friend who has same issue as her. 1st time was fine but next 2 times were weird. The next time they were both really drunk and were cuddling in front of me. I passed it off as them being drunk and my friend and I trying to help her. It bothered me so I talked to her about it and said it was bothering me and stuff she said she didn't wanna hurt me so I thought it was all good. About a week later she invited him over while I was at work and when I got home they were cuddling again. I found out that while I was at work they had kissed (they both said that's all that happened). I had to ask my friend about what happened, she lied and didn't tell me exactly. After we broke up she ended up going to his house one day and stayed the night and they both drank. I was texting her at the time and she also lied saying she was at a different girl's house. She ended up saying crazy stuff on the way home like stuff about her asking strangers to get in their car so I got worried for her well being, told her family and we called the police to help us search for her. She ended up being fine. It's been a few months now and just yesterday she started begging me for forgiveness and saying she can't let me go. And it still hurts for me to see her sad like that and a part of me wants to try and save her from what she feels (even though it still hurts me to think of being betrayed by both of them). But I don't know if that will make things worse instead of letting go. I told her we both need to move on. But it's just hard. I've never broken up with somebody before. I feel a bit like after 6 years she made a mistake at her lowest point but she was also lying to me and being disloyal to me with my best friend (who I've decided I'm never going to be friends with again) We've lived together for the past 2 years with 2 cats and she still hasn't even moved her stuff out of my place yet. She's been with her parents since January. Just curious about your guys opinions on this. Am I crazy for even debating on forgiving her or is it for the best to move on?
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