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...See more Hey there and thank you for listening to my little venting session~ First of all, I'm not really religious at all (agnostic) nor am I really a believer but regardless, I met this Muslim man. And I really wasn't expecting to fall in love but oh well. We started dating eventually. I was fine with his religion and I respected it. I tried to learn more about it and partake in some of his activities such as praying. I asked him about being of different beliefs and he said it was fine, so I believed him. We were already joking about marriage and "planning" our future, you know- how those silly young couples are. Even though I knew it most likely won't work out like that, I still thought we would be together. A few months into the relationship he tells me that he can't marry me unless I convert to Islam...I don't really want to follow a religion I don't believe in, but I also don't want to lose him. I'm quite frankly conflicted. Apparently, he didn't know this was a law and only found out when researching and learning about it. This really hurts me because I love him, but being religious isn't really for me...I already decided that if we had ever had kids, I would raise them to be Muslim if he wanted- I know I planned far ahead, but I couldn't help but think about it... This really hurt and I don't know what to do...I was willing to make sacrifices for him (like raising out kids to be Muslim and following some of the laws like the dietary rules.) but I know there's nothing he will do about it. He firmly believes in his religion and I feel selfish for wanting him to put me first. It's so selfish of me but I can't help it.

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