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So scared to initiate sex
Relationship Stress / by Vikingsoup
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 August 12th, 2017
...See more Hi all. I'm 26 and in my first relationship since a year back. J is the only one I have ever had sex with. I love our sex, he's great in so many ways, but feel like I want to have it more often. Right now it's sparse. The thing is, I'm too scared to initiate sex when I feel aroused. I just freeze like a deer in headlights let my feelings cool down. And even though I really wanna just take him right then and there, some deep rooted fear stops me. I cant even show him how hot i think he is, or how much i long to make love to him. He always initiates and I'm so happy when he does I could burst. I'm unsure why I'm like this. I love sex. I love him. But I'm so unsure of myself. Maybe it's a deep rooted fear of rejection. That he will say no and I will be hurt. Or a fear of wanting too much. I really need help. I want to be the one to just take action. I want to try new things. Why am I so scared?
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