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WallaceOeling
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Constant rejection has crippled my love life
Relationship Stress / by WallaceOeling
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 August 9th, 2023
...See more Over the past year, I've had not a small amount of failed attempts at getting successful connections, even if I thought there was potential. It's gotten so bad to the degree that I have felt unattractive and even repulsive, regardless of what I do with my physical image. Maybe I'm too much of the archetypical "nice guy", even though that term has unfortunate implications associated with the despicable incel world. The ironic thing is that if I don't meet anyone, I'm plenty satisfied with being single. But once I meet someone I'm attracted to, with whom I see potential development, it absolutely dominates my thoughts. I've been told that this "projects neediness which is unattractive", but I'm often so unaware of how my actual behavior shows this, and by then it's too late. Please spare me any words you have on how to "project more confidence" because I've heard it all. All I really want to do is re-find my center to be satisfied with single life again. Maybe that involves social isolation, but if you have any advice that doesn't involve such, feel free to share.
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