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Potentially an adult with autism? Idk..maybe
Autism Support / by WatermelonScarletLetter59915
Last post
 February 4th
...See more Hi there! I am a 30 year old female with diagnosed Adhd from childhood. If always felt ...off. but , for most of my life chalked it up to the adhd, mixed with social anxiety..laziness and maybe even a little selfishness. I hope this doesn't come off wrong because I would have no problem with being on the spectrum. My main fear is if I say to people that I think I might be that they will accuse me of trying to get sympathy or using it to get away with being lazy. But im struggling and...if its true maybe I could get help. My reasoning for wondering: * Ive always been rigid about certain things not everything. For example, if somebody cancels plans on me - even if I totally understand the reasoning, and it's not their fault at all.- I am angry, bothered and might spiral. Usually i'm aware of this and keep it to myself for the most part.But internally i'm struggling with it. And It takes long to overcome it. * And if someone disagrees with me I sometimes cannot let it go. * I'vesome habits that may be stimming * I also cant clap on a beat without needing to stop and if I try to hard it'll make me want to flap my hands ...plus i bite my nails/cuticles and do some other stim like things. * struggle socially. If my mom, dad or grandmother are not attending- I dont even like to go to social events with my family because im so uncomfortable. (If my friends or close family are doing something tho I am ok.) * I beileve im masking a lot to even when I'm seemingly doing well . ( often think- what would my mom say or do. During simple interactions like small talk.) * I stutter and loose words When explaining things. * I cannot keep my apartment clean. But am overly organized when I try to clean(which is my I cant get it clean. (I have a lot of issue that are symptoms of Adhd including this) * I overshare and can accidentally be loud * I overread peoples vibes and think everyone is mad or hate me * I have hyperfixations...with A LOT of things anime, games, music, movies, pikachu, pooh lol * need a lot of time to do anything. I struggle a lot currently because im working 2 jobs. 6 days a week with one day off. So my apartment looks like a *** hole and I ca not get motivated to clean or do any housework. * I also need the same amount of time for hobbies. I have done nothing while home alone in months involving anything i enjoy. I just watch tv and doomscroll. * I also believe I participate in Maladapted daydreaming . However its not negatively effecting my life. Buttt if ir is infact that- I'vebeen doing it since atleast the 5th grade. And it did impact my life then. Now its more of a non issue. Theres a lot more if you have questions. But from people who are on the spectrum or are more knowledgeable than me...whats your opinion? Is it possible or do I sound like im placing blame on it- but doesn'tsound like its a possibility- Or is this just adhd im misreading? [http://spectrum.My] I appreciate any help...please just be kindð¥²
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Relationship Stress / by WatermelonScarletLetter59915
Last post
 February 1st
...See more Been in a 3 year long "committed relationship " with a man who told me 2 years ago he'd never love me and didnt want the same things I did. So we became fwb- It was supposed to be temporary. But where I failed here ...I fell for him early on. He told me to find someone else , I tried and came right back. I know what i need to do. I need to leave. I know and I KNOW! but even though I want to and need to....I also dont want to. Despite what was said. The not-relationship definitely has changed and grown except for some big key things. I know i sound delusional but, what makes this harder, is that his words and actions don't align. He says he can't love Yet Acts and shows affection like his is actively in love. I generally don't push things. Because he was brutally honest with his wants and expectations. Its my fault for staying. But on the occasions I do complain or push...he agrees and offers to change. Which is EVEN MORE CONFUSING. Wouldnt someone who isnt committed and not interested just run? Whenever I talk to my friends/family they say it sounds like he loves me. And while I feel the same...I refuse to accept it because he told me he wouldnt and agreeing would make it harder to hear him say he doesn't. To everyone I know...they say were in a relationship...even if he refuses to admit it. Theres a lot of good...and a lot of meh Im not sure what I want out of posting this? I don't want to just be told to leave because it doesn't help. I already know that...idk maybe looking for other advise (if there is any😭) or emotion support?? Important info: 30F 29M Both 1st relationship
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