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WiseDecisions
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Making friends is hard
Friendship Support / by WiseDecisions
Last post
 September 12th, 2025
...See more I struggle to make friends, it has been like this for a very long time now. Halfway through primary school I switched schools and at the new school I struggled to make friends, I had a few friends but they were not really friends. My best friend was someone from my previous school. Then after primary school it became even harder, I had no friends at school all the time, I only had a friend from my early childhood and a few online friends. After secondary school I had no friends for a long time. I have not had friends for years, but sometimes it depends on your definition of friends. I had acquaintances that were kind of friends but not really. Overall I struggled to make friends more than average. Acquaintances never really became friends because of distance and I often don't listen or struggle to follow conversations. In other cases I met people who I couldn't get along with, I met many people who I couldn't get along with. Making friends can be hard. I don't think having friends is mandatory. You can live without having friends. There is no need to force yourself to have friends. You don't have to force yourself to hang out with people you are barely friends with just to have friends. If they are barely friends and you might even get in fights then maybe you should consider having no friends. If you have friends, make sure they are actual friends. Having no friends isn't a big deal, it doesn't matter. You can go without having friends. But this thread is strange. The content is a bit weird. I made this to tell my story. I actually created this thread for advice but the content I put in it is a bit weird, it's full of irrelevant opinions and other irrelevant stuff. But can any of you tell me how I can make friends? Why was it hard for me to make friends in more recent years? I don't really have a place where I can get friends, I could go to a hiking group or something like that and I will but I hardly have time to go right now. I study at home and was self employed for another company for a while, in those situations you don't meet a lot of people. At work or school you might also not make friends either, which happened to me many times. I hope I can make friends via that hiking club. I didn't make friends at my sports club so it remains to be seen.
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Did dumb things
Depression Support / by WiseDecisions
Last post
 October 15th, 2023
...See more I did dumb things that I regret. At the age of 20 I sometimes acted dumber than when I was 17 or 18. What is my next step in forgiving myself and moving on?
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Wasted my life with toxic people
Depression Support / by WiseDecisions
Last post
 October 13th, 2023
...See more I was around toxic people for a while due to loneliness. In the end, I wasted my life hanging around with these people. What is my next step? Although I wasted time with toxic people, I have learned one important lesson: Friends are worthless. I prefer my own company. Only late have I learned how true this is. Some realise it early and some realise it late.
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