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Zoe1972
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So heartbroken
Relationship Stress / by Zoe1972
Last post
 April 29th, 2020
...See more I know everything my husband is doing is wrong. He moved out almost 2 years ago. I've always known he's selfish and thinks about himself more than anyone. He is also has good parts too. We are best friends. Probably why this is so hard. He has said he's filing divorce over the 2 years about 10 times and then just doesn't go through with it. Meanwhile makes me think we are going in the right direction and then it's heart break all over again. I thought counseling was helping and then he said we didn't need it anymore. Married 16 years, together 17. We never had a bad marriage, normal issues. I watch videos, read articles. I get it, if they aren't fighting for you, putting you first, etc You should walk away. I know this, but letting go is so hard. The heartbreak is devastating. I feel like he's just bored with me. Maybe mid-life crisis? He will be 50 this summer. We each came together with a child and they are grown now. We are such a close family. And he doesn't understand how we would just not see each other and talk if we divorced. Why would I though? Someone I trusted just walked away from a good thing. I've gone all in with trying to work it out and he just works and works and doesn't face the issues he is struggling with. Add on shelter in place above all else. I have ok days and very dark days and I'm so lonely and sad. I guess I'm to nice and love to hard. But I took my vows seriously. Thanks for taking the time to read my rant.
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Relationship Stress / by Zoe1972
Last post
 April 1st, 2020
...See more I am new to this so please bare with me if I rant on. I've been married for 16 years. My husband is a very selfish, vain person who is not taking growing older well. Mid life crisis I guess? He is very independent, takes his hobbies seriously and beyond active. He works non stop as well. He let me know in the beginning he likes his space. That was fine with me because I like to be alone and do my own thing as well. Never had a bad marriage. Maybe didn't spend enough time together for my liking, but he was home every night. We are best friends. He moved out 2 years ago stating he is going through something, has nothing to do with me. He says he feels bad because I'm a great wife and hates doing this to me. I said if he was with someone else or if that's what he wanted at that point to tell me. He said it wasn't about that. We still talked and saw each other all the time. Even went on trips. Every time I thought he was coming around he would turn and say he wanted a divorce. It's been torture for me. I finally just said do it and I'm waiting for papers. I already have anxiety and depression but with this and being stuck at home because of the virus I'm struggling. I know I don't deserve what he's doing to me. I just don't know how to move on. How do you let 16 years go just like that? I could never do that. It hurts so bad and I can't seem to see any light.
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Last post
 March 23rd, 2020
...See more So anxious right now
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