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I am a 7 cups Internship and QLP honors graduate.

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Insightful Documentary
Parenting & Pregnancy / by aCalmOasis
Last post
 May 26th, 2025
...See more I just re-watched the documentary 'In Utero'. It is a bit older, it came out in 2016 but it has fascinating information showing studies on how the parental environment epigenetically affects babies in utero during pregnancy. This is an important eye opening documentary that is well worth you time. If you have already seen it, I would be interested in hearing your thoughts about it. Feel free to comment below!
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Is it a snickers? No its veggie mix.
Parenting & Pregnancy / by aCalmOasis
Last post
 May 26th, 2025
...See more Have you seen this treat hack that went viral back in 2019? I have to say this is one of the best ways to hide your favorite treats from your kids. I tried it myself and it worked like a charm. The hardest part was then being able to hide and eat it out of view. The evenings after they went to bed always worked well for that. 
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Sleep deprivation as a new parent
Parenting & Pregnancy / by aCalmOasis
Last post
 May 26th, 2025
...See more Based on the fact that we recently had a thread asking about sleep deprivation, I thought this little guide could be useful.    1. Sleep When the Baby Sleeps * This one is the classic one liner everyone tells you. But for good reason, its effective: try to sleep whenever your baby is sleeping, even if it's just a short nap. Don't worry about household chores or other tasks; resting whenever possible can make a huge difference. It has been proven that even a quick 20 minute nap can refresh you for the remainder of the day.   2. Establish a Sleep Routine for the Baby * While newborns have unpredictable sleep patterns, gradually introducing a consistent bedtime routine as your baby grows can help them (and you) get better sleep at night. It may take time, but routines such as a bath, quiet time, or feeding before bed can signal that it’s time to sleep.   3. Take Shifts with Your Partner * If possible, take turns with your partner (or another trusted family member) to handle nighttime duties. For instance, one person can handle the late-night feedings, and the other can take over in the early morning. This gives each of you a chance to get a block of sleep.   4. Stay Hydrated and Eat Well * Dehydration and poor nutrition can exacerbate the feelings of exhaustion. Drink plenty of water, and try to eat nutrient-dense snacks and meals. Foods with protein, healthy fats, and whole grains can give you sustained energy throughout the day.   5. Ask for Help * Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Whether it's asking a friend or family member to watch the baby for a few hours, or hiring a postpartum doula, getting assistance with childcare can allow you to catch up on rest.   6. Practice Relaxation Techniques * Sometimes stress can compound the feeling of tiredness. Relaxation methods like deep breathing, meditation, or gentle stretching can help calm your mind and body, which may make it easier to fall asleep when you have the chance. 7. Use Light to Your Advantage * During the day, get exposure to natural light to help regulate your circadian rhythm. If you’re awake during the night, avoid bright light or use dim lighting to avoid disrupting your body’s natural sleep-wake cycle.   9. Limit Caffeine Intake * While it’s tempting to drink a lot of coffee to stay awake, excessive caffeine can affect the quality of your sleep when you do get the chance to rest. Limit your intake and avoid it in the late afternoon or evening.   10. Be Kind to Yourself * Lastly, try to let go of any perfectionist expectations. Being a new mom is incredibly challenging, and sleep deprivation is a part of the experience for most. Be kind to yourself, take it one day at a time, and acknowledge the incredible job you're doing.
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Spending and ADHD
ADHD Support / by aCalmOasis
Last post
 April 8th, 2025
...See more Do you have issues with your finances? Do you tend to overspend? Or impulsively buy something you didnt’t really need? Perhaps what you bought is part of your newest hyper fixation or hobby, these are things we have all experienced. On average we are probably spending anywhere from 1000-1500 US annually on things, events, hobbies,  that we eventually lose interest in or forget to attend. Currently life is expensive and it doesn’t matter where you live. So how can we manage our money better when we have ADHD? It’s a simple hack, you make spending jars. You have one for bills, groceries, subscriptions, fun and outings, hyper fixation and savings. But now your organized and are placing things in order from most important to least. Then you calculate your monthly budget, what monies you are bringing in monthly versus how much money needs to go out to cover your expenses? Whatever is left over can be allocated to fun and outings, savings or your hyper fixation. Place the money that is needed in each jar that way you aren’t tempted to frivolously or impulsively spend the next time you are out and about. You can even utilize technology and download a budgeting app so that your budget is at your fingertips always. Getting organized can seem daunting but I promise you will feel more in control of your life and who knows maybe it will allow you to take that vacation you have been dreaming about. “Hello Greece”. 😊
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Have a great week everyone!
ADHD Support / by aCalmOasis
Last post
 February 24th, 2025
...See more I came across this today and thought I would share to start your week off with some inspiration! Every day is a new day and an opportunity to do something different and change your trajectory in life. You got this!
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Strategies for healthy habit building
ADHD Support / by aCalmOasis
Last post
 February 28th, 2025
...See more Building Healthy Habits: Strategies for Success I think we can all agree that we often find it challenging to establish and maintain healthy habits due to our difficulties with focus, impulse control, and consistency. However, with the right strategies, anyone can build habits that support their well-being and daily success. So here are some tips on how to effectively approach building healthy habits that stick. 1. Start Small and Build Gradually When it comes to habit formation, it's important to start small. Trying to overhaul your entire routine at once can feel too overwhelming. Instead, choose one habit to focus on at a time. For example, if you want to exercise more, start with a short walk every day. Gradually increase the time or intensity as it becomes easier. Small wins create momentum and this will build your confidence over time. 2. Create a Routine A consistent daily routine helps reduce decision fatigue and functional freeze. Create a morning and evening routine with essential tasks, such as eating a healthy breakfast, exercising, or winding down before bed. Set specific times for these activities and stick to them. Use visual reminders, like a calendar, checklist, or alarms to stay on track. The Pomodoro technique works great here. 3. Leverage Technology Technology can be a powerful tool for habit-building. Set alarms, reminders, and notifications on your phone to help you stay on track. Apps designed for habit formation, such as Habitica, Streaks, Todoist, Trello, Forest, RescueTime, Notion, Evernote, Pomodone, Simple Mind, Brain Focus can provide a visual record of your progress and keep you motivated. For larger goals, consider breaking them down into smaller, manageable tasks with clear deadlines to prevent procrastination. 4. Use the Power of Accountability Accountability is a game-changer when it comes to forming new habits. Using the buddy system you can share your goals with a trusted friend, family member, or therapist who can check in with you regularly. Alternatively, you can join a group as having someone to share your progress with will increase your motivation and encourage you to stay consistent in achieving your goals. 5. Be Kind to Yourself Building a new habit takes time, and setbacks are normal, especially for those of us with ADHD. So please don’t be too hard on yourself if you slip up or miss a day. Instead, practice self-compassion and remind yourself that progress is a journey not a destination. If you miss a habit, simply get back on track the next day. It's the consistency over time that truly matters. 6. Make Habits Enjoyable To build long-term, sustainable habits, make them enjoyable. Whether it's finding a form of exercise you like or preparing a nutritious meal that excites you, the more fun the habit is, the more likely you are to stick with it. 7. Focus on Progress, Not Perfection Habits don’t need to be perfect to be effective. Celebrate your progress, no matter how small. For example, if you’ve been consistent with a healthy eating habit for a week, acknowledge your success. The key to habit-building with ADHD is maintaining a focus on improvement rather than striving for perfection. Building healthy habits with ADHD requires patience, persistence, and the use of strategies that work with, rather than against, ADHD tendencies. By starting small, creating routines, leveraging technology, and seeking accountability, you can set yourself up for success. Remember, building habits takes time, so embrace the process and give yourself grace along the way.  
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Hi, I am the new Forum Supporter!
Parenting & Pregnancy / by aCalmOasis
Last post
 February 8th, 2025
...See more Hi everyone, I wanted to take a moment to introduce myself as the new forum supporter for this sub-community. I am a proud mama of two daughters aged 21 and 13. I was also a birth and labor doula from about 2014-2019. In that time, I supported, educated, and advocated for women and their families on the pregnancy journey and watched in awe as they transitioned into motherhood. Its not a one-size-fits-all experience or approach, as each of us come from different backgrounds, cultural traditions, and our own lens and frame of what parenting and raising a family should look like. One thing for certain is that pregnancy, birth and the postpartum periods are major markers in the transition of a woman into a mother. It is a sacred transformation that changes you forever on an emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical level. In conclusion, I am happy to be here and bring my professional and personal experience to this community. Looking forward to chatting with you!                                                 
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We are 1900+ Members Strong!!
ADHD Support / by aCalmOasis
Last post
 February 13th, 2025
...See more WOW, in the last two months we have seen an addition of about 150 new members to the ADHD sub-community. This is an achievement and something to celebrate as it means that 7 cups is continuing to grow steadily and more and more people are taking the courageous step to reach out to the community. I am grateful and appreciative, like I am sure many of you are, that 7 cups exists. It allows us to relate to one another and receive perspectives and insights that assist us on our mental health journey. Way to go everyone, and welcome!  Feel free to introduce yourself in the comments. :)
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