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adventurousDog8593
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Boyfriend stinginess
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 June 30th
...See more Please do not get me wrong. I’m not blaming him but rather trying to understand if what I’m expecting is too much from a guy Hi I’m in my mid 20s dating a guy a few years younger. I have always been big hearted when it came to going out and paying for stuff. I’m not saying I paid 100% of the time by majority of the time I would reach for wallet and he wouldn’t mind it or even offer it first or he would usually “forget” his wallet or “his card won’t work”. It came naturally and I was okay with it When we first met I was a post graduate student new in the city looking for a job. I was living off of my limited savings but I would still pay for stuff. Even though he had a job at that time. We never went on big dates because I understood that that’s a bit much to ask if we don’t earn too much just student jobs. It’s been 3 years and I have realised we have only gone on 1 proper date before ( as a birthday gift from him) where he forgot to get cash as well which he borrowed from me. I just feel like no effort has ever been made to woo me in terms of dates or going out He does make efforts sometimes by performing for me which is great and I appreciate it . But no flowers or no birthday cakes or dates. He has never been with me on birthday as well because it comes during vacation when he visits home. I never asked as well because I didn’t wanna be that girlfriend who keeps him away from his family and friends. In 3 years he has only given me 1 gift that he didn’t end up returning. On the other hand I always give him exactly what he needs and more each time on his birthday even on anniversary or valentines I would do it . With a student job as well. He earns bit less because he works only a few hours and he’s adamant that he doesn’t need more. But I see his frugal / stingyness even in day to day and it completely making me fall out of love. in day to day stuff as well I’m expected to get everything expensive around our place. And he pretend it’s 50/50. I don’t say anything because I don’t wanna argue about money but I feel like being a guy he should atleast take a girl on a date sometimes . Make some efforts . I’m not asking to spend a lot on me just sometimes maybe twice a year just pay for the dinner so I feel cherished Is that too much to ask ?
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