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I can't move on from my past relationship. How can I get over it?
Relationship Stress / by ambitiousDrum160
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 July 20th, 2021
...See more I was dating a guy on and off for 3 years. He wasn't the best person, cheated on me with most of my then friends, manipulated me, always tried to take advantage of me. I have self harmed for many years, it began a year before we started our relationship. When he found out he would give me things to hurt myself with, even hurt me himself a few times. I had become suicidal at one point, he knew that and weeks later he pressured me into sending him an inappropriate picture, told me "If you don't send it I'll leave you and you need me" so I sent it. I was a minor and he was 19, I didn't know that back then since he claimed he was only a year older than me. We broke up 2 years ago now but he affected me deeply and it feels like he still haunts me. I'm currently in a relationship with another person and I'm happy with them but I can't completely move past my old relationship. There are times I don't want to go outside because I fear I might run into him, and he recently sent me a friend request on Facebook. He is currently in a relationship and I've been angry since I've found out, I don't think it's fair. He seems happy with her while I'm still struggling to be okay because of what happened in our relationship. I thought maybe if we talked about it and he apologized I could finally let go? But I'm scared of him and he's apologized before but it was never sincere, I feel trapped. I had a therapist and I felt okay for a long time until one day it all just changed. I have 2 questions. How can I begin to heal and move on? And was this an abusive relationship? Toxic? Sorry for the long post.
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