Skip to main content Skip to bottom nav
Feel better with online therapy Professional, confidential and affordable. Start today
ambitiousMoon7243
131 M Embraced 1
PathStep 1 Compassion hearts10 Forum posts1 Forum upvotes2 Current upvotes2 Age GroupAdult Last activeSeptember, 2023 Member sinceAugust 28, 2023
Bio
Recent forum posts
ambitiousMoon7243 profile picture
My partner has detached himself from our relationship while away
Relationship Stress / by ambitiousMoon7243
Last post
 August 29th, 2023
...See more Hey guys. Writing here because I don’t know who to talk to. I am in a gay throuple. I’m the newest member. I have my primary partner and his partner- whom I also love, we just have a slightly different dynamic. anyways, last Monday my primary partner announced with an hours notice that he was going away for a week. I was upset about this at first- I’ve been dealing with him triggering my anxious attachment a lot (through doing things like this) so I was able to move on quick. But during that first week he would only text us good morning and good night, and if we reached out to him we would get short replies or one word answers. When I brought this up to him he said I was being over anxious and over dramatic. Saturday I found out from my other partner that he had decided to extend his trip another week without telling me. He did apologize to me for this, but again, blamed me for being overly anxious and needy in communication. this morning we found out that while in New York last night he met up with his ex at 2am for closure. He was really excited that they got closure- and I was too, I’m all about ending things well with an ex- but then he told us that they were ‘Intimate’ but refused to say more. This made me really upset- both me and my other partner- and I went off on him. He started telling me that I was ruining the closure he felt and that I was being really *** and that I should be being supportive. to be honest, because of all of this I don’t know if I’m in the wrong or right for feeling frustrated and defeated right now. I love him so much but it seems he can’t take any accountability for the way his actions hurt us. I don’t think I’m an overly needy person. I just want basic communication. I don’t know what to do, but I feel ***. I don’t understand how my partner can hook up with an ex but I’m the one being made to feel bad. I don’t know what to do.
Search more from @ambitiousMoon7243
Considering Therapy?
Talk to an expert therapist
Badges & Awards
6 total badges
Hand Shake Linked First Post Reaching out First Compassion Teammate
Report an issue
Considering therapy? Talk to a licensed therapist, wherever you are. Get started
Feel better with online therapy Professional, confidential and affordable. Start today