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...See more Two weeks ago my husband passed out on the bed leaving a text conversation between him and another woman open. In the conversation, he made remarks about me and said he loved her and wished he could hold her. I had noticed signs before but I joked about it with him because I never imagined he would do something like this. We have been together over 15 years, and although I have many health problems I thought we were happy. He explained to me that it wasnt real, that he doesnt love her, and it was like a fantasy world where he could comfortably open up to someone because hes not good at it in real life. He explained that although it wasnt my fault, he felt like he was coming home to bad news every day and that I had nothing new to tell him because I wasnt able to experience the a typical day and share new things, that was his initial attraction to speaking to a stranger across the world. I verified that she is from Cambodia, and that they met in a chat on a game app. He said it started a month ago and they never shared sexual content and that it had only escalated within that last week, but I obviously cant be certain of that. One of the worst parts is that he said he would be speaking to her while rubbing my head on the couch, or when we were out with family and friends. We decided immediately that our marriage was important to us and have since been trying to move forward and hes been patient with all my questions and unstable moods. The first week I couldnt eat, throwing up, and experiencing all the stages of grief. The second week has been better and I feel that it actually helped our marriage in some aspects, but then I have these *low* moments. My confidence is at 0% and I feel stuck at home with very little opportunities, and not much of a support system. My husband was the person I went to for these things and I feel betrayed and alone. Any Advice?

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