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...See more I'm in a relationship with a guy from the past 9 months. He had ADHD that I knew when we started talking which he developed after the breakup of his previous 2 year serious relationship. I had no problem about that he seemed pretty normal to me. He proposed me and I said yes after much deliberation. Then after 2-3 months of our relationship, he got a call from his ex saying she wants him back(she was studying abroad and even got engaged). He refused even after she begged him to come back to her and blocked her. For almost a month, she tried contacting him in every possible way. He didn't pay heed as he was happy with me and didn't want more depression. One day, he gets a call that she has committed suicide(she was also suffering mentally) He tried to break our relationship as he didn't want me to suffer and even left the city. After a month of not talking I contacted him again and we again got back together( I faced severe mental health issues during that one month). He told me he has been diagnosed with bipolar disorder stage I. I was okay with it as I had hope that things would get better soon. But then he told me another truth that he got his heart tested and found out about 65% blockage which could apparently shorten his life span. I still stayed hopeful but somewhere he's still suffering mentally as he is guilty he didn't listen to his ex and now he could hear her voices all the time and even asking me to leave but I don't want to. He says he doesn't want to ruin my life. But I'm sticking because I know he loves me and I love him too. I don't know what should I do? Is there any future of us together? (We've been talking about getting married since we got together) We had so many dreams together but I don't know if they'll be fulfilled. He was taking anti depressants and ADHD medication when we started talking but left them when we got together as he felt healed but now of course he's taking heavy medication for bipolar disorder. I don't know he's trying to push me as he doesn't want to ruin my life but the truth is the damage has been done, his every action would hurt me for sure because he truly matters to me. He feels like she's not leaving him alone always trying to make him realise his mistakes. She tries to call him to her(take wrong step) I don't know if this is her soul talking to him or just his imagination because of bipolar. Even the last message she sent him was "I wish you never find peace in your life because of what you have done to me". Not to forget before he started dating her he lost his father at the age of 17, that's where his mental health issues began which he realised much later. When he met me it was already 2.5 years to his breakup. Now he's 22. Should I wait for him to heal mentally and physically? We truly love each other and want a future together but his life seems uncertain.

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