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benzin
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Best Friend / Past crush Advice
Relationship Stress / by benzin
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 November 23rd, 2018
...See more Hello, so I'm struggling to understand my relationship with one of my best friends who is a girl. We've had an interesting past with conflicts coming between us two separate times when people told her I wanted to get with her (I do know that she was attracted to me at one point before we became friends). The first time we probably didn't talk to each other much for around a month and the second time for just a day. Each time this has happened we've become much better friends after. She's always known that I liked her but I don't know if she knows that I still like her now and I've been very careful not to tell anyone because of how much I value our relationship and I couldn't bear losing it. We are extremely similar people when it comes to our values and interests yet we are very different at the same time in ways I can't explain. She's told me that I'm one of her closest friends and I believe it in school because whenever we're in the same vicinity, we're almost always together however outside of school I sometimes believe differently. My friends and teachers see the connection we have at school and have said things to me and her I'd assume. However, whenever I ask her to hang out outside of school she usually either says yes and then something comes up or she's just not available. She has ADHD and has had 5 concussions so her memory isn't the greatest which makes me think that sometimes she just forgets but definitely not every time I ask. And when it comes to talking and texting outside of school we normally talk at least once every day. Neither of us uses our phones a lot so we don't talk a ton like some other people but for this entire week, she hasn't said a word to me since Saturday even when I've sent a message to her and I know she's talking to people. On Friday I asked if she wanted to hang out and she said she couldn't because of a medical reason which I know with 100% certainty is true but she told me that hopefully, she can hang when she feels better. She hasn't said anything to me since and I noticed that she went out to a party a day or two after our conversation. The week leading up to this text conversation I had a weird feeling that something was off but couldn't figure out what because we just weren't connecting like we normally do and I can figure out what's going on for the life of me. Sorry if any of this message didn't make sense, I have a lot going through my head right now trying to make sense of this.
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