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blueOwl9565
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The guy I am dating dated a transwoman before
Relationship Stress / by blueOwl9565
Last post
 March 2nd, 2022
...See more Look I know this is a very controversial topic, but I am dating a man who recently disclosed that he previously was in a relationship before with a transwoman. I told him that yes it is his choice and I have no business with it, but currently it’s eating me deep inside. I am someone who would never date someone who is bi, I just think there are lots of complications with it. I don’t necessarily know what he identifies as. It just unsettles me a lot, I am not sure if it’s something I can be totally comfortable with. He’s a very sweet guy and I do like him… I just don’t know how to approach the subject with him. Because now I’ve got so many questions and it’s building a lot of insecurities. (Not to mention another issue I’d like to bring up in regards to our sex life).
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What should I do?
Relationship Stress / by blueOwl9565
Last post
 February 18th, 2021
...See more I don’t know just asking for advise, I have been seeing someone for three months now. This person can be inconsistent when he replies to me or not and that admittedly causes me to be insecure about it. This person is telling me that hypothetically he does not even want to jump into a relationship even after four months of seeing each other (exclusively). This Valentine’s being the one with high expectations... I was expecting at least a nice sweet message. But then nothing was send done or anything until the afternoon I admittedly got upset and sent a somehow passive aggressive message saying that it must be that busy and I wish a Happy Valentine’s day. Also wished a good day for this person. I just got sent a greeting of happy Valentine’s and a take care and there’s no more conversation after that. The next day I messaged him and asked if he was okay because he wasn’t messaging me again and it was already late afternoon, I told him I don’t know what to make of his silence. He then told me that he does not want to deal with my mood swings and that is something he does not want nor need. I got hurt and I told him he was being a jerk. He was just saying that he was being honest and straightforward. I got more hurt and told him that it wouldn’t hurt to hear me out. However he just further told me that I get moody when he ignores my message and more drama is something that he does not want in his life. I said then I wouldn’t further bother him and wished him a good day. Ever since he has not message me and it’s been almost four days.... Is it even worth clearing the misunderstanding ... or is it pretty much a done deal?
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