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blueScarf4905
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Trouble trusting/believing in the good in new healthy relationship after emotional abuse in childhood
Trauma Support / by blueScarf4905
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 April 27th, 2023
...See more Hi all - This is my first post here and has taken a lot of courage for me to be open about. For the majority of my childhood and into my adolescence and even teen years, I was viciously verbally abused by my father. I never knew when it would happen and it resulted in me always having to be on edge. I never knew when the love would be taken away and replaced by the rage, or when something hurtful was right around the corner. I now, years later, am in a healthy relationship with a truly wonderful man who is there through every part of my healing journey. I just feel so much shame when I am triggered/seem to go backwards again. I have so much trouble trusting him, always think there’s something he’s hiding or doing and that I’m about to get hurt in some massive way (relating to my past). It is difficult for me to just believe he genuinely and wholeheartedly loves me and wouldn’t hurt me, and I have a hard time not letting those triggers take over my actions in the moment. Can anyone relate to this/has anyone found any successful strategies in soothing those triggers or stopping the immediate reactions to them? Or also, in becoming more trusting of partners? Thank you ❤️
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