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brightPlum9077
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Hey! :) A girl who wants to become the best version of herself

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Online dating
Relationship Stress / by brightPlum9077
Last post
 May 3rd
...See more Hello 7cups :) I have gotten out of a long-term relationship last year and since then I've been trying online dating. However my luck in these apps seems to be really bad. No messages, no interesting conversations, no responses... During these difficult times and all restrictions is hard to meet people "in real life" so I don't see other alternatives than using dating apps. However, as I explained before, I'm not having a nice "online dating" experience and this is affecting my self steem. I blame the way I look that guys don't find my pictures attractive enough to initiate a conversation. I get fed up of the apps, delete them but a couple of days later, I start using them again. It's kind of like an addiction but with no positive rewards. How are your experiences with dating apps? Thanks for reading :)
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Anxiety at work
Anxiety Support / by brightPlum9077
Last post
 February 3rd, 2021
...See more I feel so stressed and overwhelmed because of work. Mostly because I feel I can't stand for myself, I'm weak and feel unable to defend my opinions. This comes from childhood. My parent was very dominant and I was constantly scared of him. Now when someone raises his voice I feel anxious and get agitated. I hate being like this and can't seem to handle stressful discussions at work. :(
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Boring life
Depression Support / by brightPlum9077
Last post
 July 7th, 2020
...See more Hi. I just want to let out some thoughts here since I don't really have anyone to talk to about this.... I'm feeling weird the last months... Or better said sad and lonely. Disappointed of the way my life is at the moment. I feel even bad complaining because I have a place to sleep, food and a job. But I feel empty and with no real purpose in life. Everything feels at the moment so meaningless. Every day I wake up and realize have to go to work, it hurts. I dislike greatly my job and don't feel competent enough for it. Everyone's advice is "just change your job". Like it was so easy. I'm a woman of color and after everything what's happening in the world right now I'm realizing how fucked up everything is. I feel like I had always to do the extra mile or prove myself everytime to get where I am now. A young immigrant woman of color won't be the first choice for a job position. When I don't have to work in the weekends, it doesn't get better. I don't have many friends. So I feel very lonely and prefer to stay at home rather than going out alone without any purpose... I tried dating apps and just reconfirmed that if I was prettier and "whiter" it would be easier to fit in this society. I'm tired.
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Right decision?
Relationship Stress / by brightPlum9077
Last post
 March 24th, 2020
...See more Hey, after a long relationship (3.5 years) I broke up with my boyfriend. The last year was almost like a long distance relationship because we were on many trips and he was in an exchange semester. 2 weeks after he came back we decided to finish our relationship. At the moment it happened I didn't feel affected. I think it was pride talking... like I don't depend on you and I can continue my life without you... We were not having strong feelings towards each other and also intimacy was not working .. We were getting annoyed easily at each other because of small things. However, after 2 weeks of breaking-up and me moving out, and in the middle of this lock-up situation, I'm feeling really down and lonely. We were living together. I cannot say he was the love of my life. I never dared to say that. I don'tknow what real love feels like. I just felt secure with him, he is an amazing person with his own defects. I wasn't feeling strong towards him in the last months. Specially in the last months. And it is apparently the same for him. So we took the decision to end somethin thaat doesn't have a future. I always had doubts however I feel now that I'm losing someone very special. I don't know if I would fine someone like him that would put his eyes on me. He is acting now like everything is ok and he is just moving on and saying he wants to keep in touch with me. And it hurts that he is able to do that so easily. It is definitely more difficult for me to do that.
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Frustration
Depression Support / by brightPlum9077
Last post
 October 20th, 2017
...See more I'm very frustrated of who I am... I'm shy and can't get what I want because I'm afraid of asking or searching for it.... looks like others navigate with no problem and I'm always stuck because I feel I'm not good enough for anything. Always following what others say or want from me. I'm so tired of this and I don't know how to leave this hole. I give up so easily...
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Lonely without motivation
Depression Support / by brightPlum9077
Last post
 October 10th, 2017
...See more Hello all! I just want to let out my feelings with you :) I'm unemployed and although I consider I have good qualifications, it's pretty hard for me to find a job since I don't have much work experience. I just finished my studies and I'm not living in my home country which makes the situation even more difficult since I would need a employer to "sponsor" my visa. I feel lonely and without any motivation to do things such as exercise or even leaving home. The only thing that motivates me staying here is my partner. He is simply amazing and I want to be part of his life. Thanks for reading!
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