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...See more Hello, i am a binary trans man. I'm turning 22 very soon and kind of realized, that my 10th anniversary of coming out is coming soon as well. Even though i have been on this journey for a while, i still have not found my peace with my identity. How can i feel more comfortable being trans? Is that even possible or is it out of reach for me? I don't want to be seen as "the trans guy". I find that kind of condecending. Right now i am almost fully living stealth, but recently have come out to some peers because i joined a trans support group for a couple times. Didn't make me feel any better. Somehow i was left with the feeling that i am somehow a backstabber because i want to be stealth and somehow i am transphobic because i want to pass as cis. How can i ever find peace when my own community attacks me and makes me feel like an outcast, or am i wrong to want to pass as cis and not seen as trans? To me being trans isn't fun. It's not a part of my identity. Gender isn't something i want to "play with" or "break gender roles/stereotypes". My gender is man, 100% and i want to be traditionally masculine and a stereotypical guy because those things and traits make me happy and make me feel at home, but somehow other people make me feel like the enemy/the bad guy for wanting so. I just want to stop hating myself. I want to stop mourning the fact that i will never be a cis man. How can i achieve that? Are there other people who share these feelings?

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