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calmLunch9427
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I hate my rejection sensitive dysphoria
ADHD Support / by calmLunch9427
Last post
 Tuesday
...See more I made a post in the last week about struggling with rejection sensitive dysphoria and I'm just having a lotta difficulty My friend's been really busy lately, so hasn't been responding as much as usual, and I just can't stop feeling anxious about it, I'm afraid I'm gonna do something impulsive and stupid and ruin things
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Friendship advice (my friend has autism, not me)
Autism Support / by calmLunch9427
Last post
 Monday
...See more So I went this guy back in March who's autistic (he's a trans man, if that's relevant, idk, he's cool tho) and idk, I just kinda wonder what little things I could do maybe. Also, I have ADHD, like mostly untreated aside from some meds as a kid and some meds I've been taking since the beginning of last month We usually message each other, but I do feel sometimes as if I'm the one initiating things (tho, he does invite me to stuff sometimes) but I usually send a lotta stuff, and he's expressed no qualms about it in the time we've known each other so far. I'd seen something about being a good friend, and one of the things was if something reminds you of someone, send it to them, so I do that Sometimes he does take a while to respond, but he's pretty busy with work, plus he's married and lives with his husband and twin brother, so it's not a big deal. I'd also seen stuff about autistic people sometimes forgetting, or not knowing how to respond to messages. He's also mentions having really bad rejection sensitive dysphoria, which I relate to Idk, I just wanna be a good friend to this dude. He's cool, and I like being friends with him, what could I do to be a good friend? Should I just ask him myself?
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Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria in friendships
ADHD Support / by calmLunch9427
Last post
 August 1st
...See more I was diagnosed with ADHD at 5, 21 now, but I was unmedicated for most of that time. Only really medicated for a few years after my initial diagnosis, on Vyvanse, and now for a month, on Atomoxetine. I say this cause I figure it's relevant stuff to what I'm talking about I'm just wondering if it's a common experience for other people with ADHD, especially the RSD part of it, to feel nervous about friendships? Or like, when a friend doesn't respond for a bit, or doesn't see your messages, or even leaves you on seen, is it "normal" to get nervous about that? Taking Atomoxetine does help a bit with me not acting on those nervous thoughts, because I've been a lot less impulsive, thankfully, but I still struggle with the little bits of anxiety about things. It makes my brain think my friends don't like me, or I'm annoying them, but I know they're just busy with work or other things, and that I'm completely fine, still, the anxiety is there. Is this a common experience for us all?
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Atomoxetine stuff
ADHD Support / by calmLunch9427
Last post
 July 26th
...See more So I had started taking atomoxetine for my ADHD (diagnosed at like 5, 21 now) at the start of the month, taken when I wake up, and I'm noticing it causing me some issues. Like, at first, I felt less anxious, but a little bit more tired than usual. Now I'm struggling with insomnia, a little bit of anxiety, and ED and lowered libido (I hope that's not weird to discuss) My next med check isn't for a while, i could reschedule a sooner one, I probably will, and talk about it, but I just don't know, I've seen other mixed opinions, like that I should absolutely tell my doctor/med provider and others saying I should wait for the medication to set in properly I really hope this kinda stuff isn't weird to discuss, I'm just worried about it. I also don't wanna talk about that kinda stuff with my doctor/med provider, even if I know it's like their job to do that stuff
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Worried about CPS stuff
Anxiety Support / by calmLunch9427
Last post
 July 10th
...See more I don't even know if this counts as anxiety specifically, but I feel like a wreck right now I'd gotten into therapy like two months ago, it's going alright, it honestly doesn't feel like I'm making any progress, but I had ranted to my therapist about how the house wasn't clean and that it was really bad, and since he's a mandated reporter, he reported us to CPS I live with my mom and little sister, my mom isn't neglectful or anything, she tries her best, she's just easily overwhelmed and we all struggle with a lotta things that hamper our motivation to get things done They're coming tomorrow and we still have so much to clean and I'm worried that I'm gonna get my little sister taken away or my mom in trouble and I feel like it's all my fault and I wished I'd never said anything at all about it in the first place
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Boredom
ADHD Support / by calmLunch9427
Last post
 June 16th
...See more So we had a storm recently, and a tree fell on a power line, and our house needed to have the power turned off. It's been off for more than a day, and I feel like I'm going insane
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About to start meds, worried about side effects
ADHD Support / by calmLunch9427
Last post
 June 7th
...See more So I recently got into therapy, and also started stuff for meds too. I even have a prescription, the only issue is paying for the meds and getting them, but I have that issue handled, pretty much I forgot exactly what my prescription was. It was Ritalin and Wellbutrin, but it was changed to a non stimulant ADHD med, and I think still Wellbutrin, I'm not sure I'm just considering backing out of it because of the side effects. Maybe if I could remember the specific names, and my stupid brain wasn't forgetful, I could look more into it, but there's so much I'm worried about. Undersleeping, oversleeping, and stupid weird stuff like libido I just worry that I'll prefer my life off the meds. I've made it 21 years without them, 16 since my diagnosis, I could make it further, couldn't I? Idk. I'm so worried
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Inappropriate stuff, idk if I'm allowed to discuss it
Relationship Stress / by calmLunch9427
Last post
 May 23rd
...See more I guess it's a mix of friendship and relationship stuff, but I have a friend, we're pretty close, we talk almost every day, and we really appreciate each other and everything, and have even "talked" and "gotten closer" over the past month. Things escalated, really I'm into him, and he's into me, but we're not exactly into all the same "things", like, privately, if you catch my drift. I want to please him, and meet those needs, if that makes sense, but I'm just not into what he's into, and it makes me feel bad. But I also don't want to hurt him
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