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Mentally Drained because of my Breakup
Relationship Stress / by chaachiboom
Last post
 January 6th
...See more I'm turning 30 in a few days and my ex is 27. It's a 1 yr and 9 months long distance relationship. We started very strongly, he visits me often in the middle east, as l'm working for an airline there. He met my family in Philippines. We also did travel to other countries. Everything is almost perfect I can say. How he is as a person, how he listens, loves me, communicates... I never felt like we are in a long distance since we always talk everyday, we never let any of our chance be missed, and 24/7 whenever don't have work, etc... Not until just last year July 2025, he finished his therapy of 3 years and his emotions started to really affect us. We tried to work through it until this December 2025 before I fly back here to Philippines for a holiday and my birthday vacation. But things are just getting worse. He now can say hurtful words like he doesn't think he loves me as much like before, he feels like i won't be able to go to the US and be stuck in where l'm at forever. He lost trust that we'll ever get a future together and that he can't imagine us going through another 2-3 years of long distance. But before things got bad, he made me apply a US Visa once and got rejected since I don't have strong ties yet at that time. Even if I already had a gut feeling that time that I will be rejected but I still tried so I don't make him feel disappointed. So since that happened, we decides to travel to another country that's easier to get a Visa for me, since I have a weak passport and it would be a good background as well if I have a strong travel history. I always "almost" ended up applying for Japan Visa, Korean Visa, Australian Visa. But all of it never happened coz there's always something that's stopping me, either my roster with the airline, appointment schedules, or him breaking up with me again. As if that's really God's sign.... Every time he breaks up with me since July to November 2025, I always give chances wishing things will be different because he keeps coming back after 2-3 days of the break up. But whenever things got intense for him again, he just abandons me and say hurtful words again. Then last month December, we tried to talk things out again but even with that, I can't feel that he'll improve or things will improve, so I finally decided to ignore him with the texts. Then last 30th of December, we talked again but at that time he never mentioned getting back together anymore. He said that his heart is locked away, and that he sees my efforts and that it saddens him to see me hurt, etc. And I also noticed that it's been a week that he didn't break our "no contact", which is unusual and I just had a gut feeling. So I checked his socials from another account since he blocked me in everywhere, except whatsapp. Then I saw he's talking to someone new already. What's worse is that, she's also a Filipina, 7 years younger than me, living in Philippines still coz she just graduated from college and a licensed engineer. It broke my heart so much. I felt so low, and felt powerless. So I just keep crying, I couldn't sleep, I couldn't eat. I feel betrayed because he told me he cannot do long distance anymore... and he lost trust that I will ever get a visa again where in fact I am more stable now with my airline job as l'm reaching two years of working in the middle east, plus I now have my own assets/business back home in Philippines.. I just can't really understand how he can do that. Is there anything that I can't do that she can... I believed all this time it was just about his mental health that's why things aren't working out. Maybe it is.... I can't say he cheated on me, but jumping into another relationship right away that I don't think is such a difference to our situation... It is so easy for him to throw our almost 2 yrs relationship, the trips we were looking forward to, the future we planned... I just can't process it really.... From what I'm seeing him now is very different from how I first met him. God knows I tried everything....
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Going through a hard break up right now and I just don’t know how to move forward yet
General Support / by chaachiboom
Last post
 January 5th
...See more I’m turning 30 in a few days and my ex is 27. It’s a 1 yr and 9 months long distance relationship. We started very strongly, he visits me often in the middle east, as I'm working for an airline there. He met my family in Philippines. We also did travel to other countries. Everything is almost perfect I can say. How he is as a person, how he listens, loves me, communicates… I never felt like we are in a long distance since we always talk everyday, we never let any of our chance be missed, and 24/7 whenever don’t have work, etc… Not until just last year July 2025, he finished his therapy of 3 years and his emotions started to really affect us. We tried to work through it until this December 2025 before I fly back here to Philippines for a holiday and my birthday vacation. But things are just getting worse. He now can say hurtful words like he doesn't think he loves me as much like before, he feels like i won't be able to go to the US and be stuck in where I’m at forever. He lost trust that we’ll ever get a future together and that he can’t imagine us going through another 2-3 years of long distance. But before things got bad, he made me apply a US Visa once and got rejected since I don't have strong ties yet at that time. Even if I already had a gut feeling that time that I will be rejected but I still tried so I don’t make him feel disappointed. So since that happened, we decides to travel to another country that’s easier to get a Visa for me, since I have a weak passport and it would be a good background as well if I have a strong travel history. I always “almost” ended up applying for Japan Visa, Korean Visa, Australian Visa. But all of it never happened coz there’s always something that’s stopping me, either my roster with the airline, appointment schedules, or him breaking up with me again. As if that’s really God’s sign…. Every time he breaks up with me since July to November 2025, l always give chances wishing things will be different because he keeps coming back after 2-3 days of the break up. But whenever things got intense for him again, he just abandons me and say hurtful words again. Then last month December, we tried to talk things out again but even with that, I can't feel that he'll improve or things will improve, so I finally decided to ignore him with the texts. Then last 30th of December, we talked again but at that time he never mentioned getting back together anymore. He said that his heart is locked away, and that he sees my efforts and that it saddens him to see me hurt, etc. And I also noticed that it's been a week that he didn't break our “no contact”, which is unusual and I just had a gut feeling. So I checked his socials from another account since he blocked me in everywhere, except whatsapp. Then I saw he’s talking to someone new already. What's worse is that, she’s also a Filipina, 7 years younger than me, living in Philippines still coz she just graduated from college and a licensed engineer. It broke my heart so much. I felt so low, and felt powerless. So I just keep crying, I couldn’t sleep, I couldn’t eat. I feel betrayed because he told me he cannot do long distance anymore... and he lost trust that I will ever get a visa again where in fact I am more stable now with my airline job as I’m reaching two years of working in the middle east, plus I now have my own assets/business back home in Philippines.. I just can’t really understand how he can do that. Is there anything that I can’t do that she can… I believed all this time it was just about his mental health that’s why things aren’t working out. Maybe it is…. I can’t say he cheated on me, but jumping into another relationship right away that I don’t think is such a difference to our situation… It is so easy for him to throw our almost 2 yrs relationship, the trips we were looking forward to, the future we planned… I just can’t process it really…. From what I’m seeing him now is very different from how I first met him. God knows I tried everything….
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