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Friendship Support / by chrundle
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 March 13th
...See more Disclaimer: Sorry its so long 🥴 I have a male friend, we'll call him Lee. Lee has been my friend for almost 4 years now. His family has always been very strong advocates of us getting into a relationship. Lee and I have had numerous conversations with me explaining to him that we simply will not be in a relationship together. We have both gotten into relationships and have talked to multiple people. However, it seems like no matter what I say or do, he and his family are always treating me like I have an obligation to be with or around Lee. His mother is always "Chrundle is what's best for him, he needs to be with her. She's gunna be the one to straighten him out and help him grow up." (which I feel like is rediculous because why am I responsible for straightening YOUR son out). They all have it in their heads that there's no other way for this to go other then for me to be with him, and he takes it and runs with it. Completely disregarding anything I said to him before. He does romantic gestures I'm constantly having to correct, and is constantly bringing me up in the most obscene ways, for no reason. Recently, things have gotten a lot worse.  Over the course of this friendship, I met his sister, we'll call her Suga. Suga and I clicked IMMEDIATELY. She became my absolute best friend, her daughter calls me her aunt, we are thick as thieves. Over the course of my and Suga's friendship growing, there have been small questions on whether me and Suga were dating or messing around (we are both bisexual), to which we gave a strong no. Lately, it has become a serious issue. Between Lee, his mom, his uncle, and Suga's boyfriend, EVERYBODY thinks we are trying to date. Every time Suga steps out of the house to come over to hang out its an argument with her and her boyfriend. I got a call from Suga while Lee was over at my house hanging out and she was telling me goodnight and we said I love you and hung up and the next day Lee texted me at 6:30 in the morning asking me if Suga and I were dating. Lee's mom is constantly asking if me and Suga are sleeping around. Her and her boyfriend argue about it almost every day. Its constantly being brought up to the point where im becoming defensive.  I have never had a friendship that I have valued in the way that I value mine and Suga's. It is pure, and honest, and genuine, and soft, and kind, and it's a love that I have never received from a friend before. She gives me a safe space where i can be soft and girly and not have to be so rough around the edges. She gives me a space to express myself and I just feel like everyone is just trying to *** on it. We have never given anyone any reason to feel like we have done anything. We are not the touchy feely type of friends. There is no drunk kissing, or "accidental" lesbian incidents. We respect eachothers boundaries and personal space.  I feel like Lee and his entire family have this sense of entitlement over me, like they have a say so in what I do. It's... unsettling. I don't know how to handle this situation. But I do know that I think distance between Lee and I is very much needed. 
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